“Your presence is not found in what you do. It is found in the natural frequency of being fully you,” Ashmi Path. So appropriate to follow our discussion on magic of the soul, magic of healing. It isn’t to tout the greatness of being female, it’s about reclaiming what we were told to forget. Ashmi’s message is about remembering self and honoring who we are seems more for women. Too often we sacrifice ourselves for something else, namely to be accepted by something or someone. I’m not discounting the human need to be accepted, but we need to be more discerning in whose acceptance we seek. When we are fully who we are, that is an energy that can’t be faked or replaced. It feels natural and life truly flows.
I think women willingly give up who they are because they are attempting to keep the peace. They are attempting to keep the perceived safety alive, the perceived order. Women can’t show weakness any more than men can, it just looks different on a woman. The irony comes when we show vulnerability, we are automatically labeled weak or emotional. It’s still the double standard where we are supposed to have it all and that means doing it all. We are meant to support each other and that means getting in touch with that vulnerability. Women are here to remind us of that but we are taught to forget it for the sake of proving we are worthy and capable. The message isn’t to show that we can’t do it, just that we at least have the opportunity. That doesn’t make us emotional wrecks. It makes us humans who need to be validated as any other human.
I would like to add that sometimes it IS what we do. When we align with who we are we naturally do the things that we love. We find that our purpose and identity align. We don’t have to do things for others, to make others happy, or to meet other’s expectations—because that isn’t the presence we are talking about. That’s a temporary high of approval from others and we are always looking for the next hit. When we align with our true selves, presence comes naturally and who we are follows. The things we want to do follow. The purpose follows. We are all capable of great things and we are meant to be. We don’t have to be great at everything to be considered worthy-we just need to be greatly who we are. Allow that out and watch your life change.