Do less of what burns you down and more of what lights you up. Whooossssh. That’s a big one. This goes beyond feeling good, beyond feeling joy, beyond following our path. All of those things are incorporated, but there is more to it. This tacks into the depth of the why we do things. I’m a people pleaser, born and bred. Raised by generations of women who didn’t want to rock the boat in spite of the fire they felt inside telling them to jump overboard or turn the whole damn thing over. Strong women with valid opinions and amazing ideas who kept quiet because they didn’t think they could do anything about it and that they didn’t want to be disliked. But my Lord, for me to still feel it, I can only imagine the fire they held inside. Fire isn’t meant to be tamed, it isn’t meant to be restrained. Fire is the destruction that comes before creation and if we don’t learn to work with it, it burns us instead. So why do we pretend it’s our job to harness ourselves when we need to learn how to harness that creativity and put it toward the good?
Looking at the why, that’s where the feelings come in. Yes, it’s natural to do things because they feel good or that we are curious about, but those are surface level motivations. We could jump from distraction to distraction all day taking the dopamine hits, thinking we feel good, but it’s only temporary. We will always need something else to make us feel good. But if we learn to harness that curiosity and understand what “feeling good” means, we can uncover something else: purpose. There’s a reason we are drawn to it and a reason it feels good. We are meant to make something of it and follow it to something bigger. We are meant to share a message. We are meant to become beacons in new ways of doing things. Instead of letting the fire burn us, we can let it ignite the path before us and give light to those behind us until they forge their own path.
We are given that spark and told if we let it grow it will burn us but that is a lie. The spark is meant to ignite us and inspire us to action toward what we are meant to do. We were given this internal guidance system and told that it would hurt us, that it would lead us astray, or that we were selfish to follow it. We were told that the system needed us to feed it more than we needed to feed ourselves and fulfill our own purpose. But that spark never died. It was always there telling us that there was something more. Once we let it take over and start seeing it for what it is, the fuel that moves us to be who we truly are, people get afraid. They say that we aren’t who we used to be or that we changed. I say, no, I haven’t changed, I’ve become exactly who I always was. It might look like change, but there is freedom in becoming, in the shedding of what we’ve been told. It isn’t so much a change as an embracing and welcoming of who we are. Suddenly we see the fire wasn’t dangerous to us—ever. It was dangerous to those who sought to control it. Let it light you up and don’t ever let anyone diminish it.