“Sometimes there will be no one to go with you. No one else is down to do what you want to do. but that is not an excuse to miss out. That is the time when you do it anyway and allow your full potential to be unleashed.” Unknown. I’ve spent a lot of my life turning down experiences. I turned down going to laser tag on one of my first dates with my husband because I didn’t know how to do it. I turned down going out to countless dinners because I couldn’t afford it. I turned down travelling because I couldn’t get time off of work. I’ve put my life on hold for so many reasons, not having enough, all the while feeling a desperate need to move forward. A habit I used to have was needing someone to be with me. If they wouldn’t go, I wouldn’t go because I didn’t want to be alone or I was afraid I couldn’t figure it out on my own.
I’m learning to trust myself more and that means trusting myself to do the things I want to even if they don’t make sense to someone else. It means trusting that, as a grown adult, I do not need permission to do what I want to do and that I will be able to figure out the logistics. It means that, regardless of people seeing me and having their opinions based on how I look, it means moving forward and doing it anyway. Trust comes from allowing yourself to find your way and following your gut no matter what. Other people aren’t required or always able to fulfill your requirements or your needs and they certainly aren’t required to fulfill your wants.
The more experience we have with answering the call of our heart, the better we are at listening to what it tells us. The answers we need are always within, that is the point. We so often have fear of missing out when it comes to something other people are doing, but we don’t have the same sense of urgency when it comes to our own desires. We always think we can do it later or that eventually someone will do it with us. There are times when we simply need to buckle up and go for it on our own. There are points of the journey that aren’t meant for anyone but us. It isn’t about lack of support, it’s about finding faith in our ability to do it on our own.