I talked about my witch the other day and how she made me realize that I can’t be so demanding or hold an expectation for what I want right now.  As it happens, right when we are ready to give up, there comes a sign to either keep going or that makes the pieces click.  For me, it was the former—a message to keep going in spite of being seconds from madness.  Between the conversation with my witch and a timely message about simmering down the emotion, the realization about time hit me: life runs its course no matter what we do.  We can’t always prepare for some of the things that happen or the resulting (potential) trauma.  We can’t prepare for the consequences or even the delights of the paths we choose.  The whole point of this life is to find a way to share joy and happiness and love with the world.

So, following up on yesterday’s conversation about being self-ful, it’s important to dive deep into how we do that.  Again, I want to clarify that being self-ful isn’t a selfish act.  It isn’t about getting what we want when we want it.  It’s about creating space for joy and happiness a majority of the time.  We are fed this lie that we have to earn our happiness through sacrificing a majority of our time toward someone else’s end, someone who gets to go out and enjoy the world on their own terms while we fit in their prescribed boxes.  We believe that lie because we are told it’s rough out there, that life is hard.  We are never told that we MAKE it hard to satisfy the needs/wants of the few, to keep the system happy, not the individual. 

The first step to being happy again is to take a step back.  When the emotions are heightened and we are overwhelmed by everything or even if we are more sensitive, it’s time to stop.  We need to understand what’s happening in our bodies and know that we are in an elevated state that won’t allow us to process information correctly.  Once we understand what’s happening to our bodies, we can begin the process of course correcting.  Start filling your time with things that bring you joy, things that make your body feel good.  Then it’s the tricky part: stepping back and allowing things to fall into place.  Control freaks shudder simultaneously—I know I did.  The process of allowing is about trust and when we take our hands off the reins, we are trusting that things will be ok.  But this is where mindset comes in: if you let go and something you expect to happen doesn’t happen, the first reaction can’t be, “Why didn’t this happen for me, I did what I was supposed to.”  The reaction has to be, “It wasn’t the right time or something else is coming.”  And patience isn’t always easy, but then we wait.

There is very little that has anything to do with us or our behavior, it’s about our frequency and our role in the universe.  It isn’t a personal thing, it’s a practical thing and we can either fight our position or we can learn to accept it and take up the mantle of who we are supposed to be.  It can be terrifying because we all have ideas about what life should look like or what we want it to look like and sometimes the reality is quite different.  Accepting the gap between the two is the difference between trust and control—as is learning how to close the gap between the two when it’s aligned with our purpose.  Take the emotion down to understand what’s happening and try to trust it isn’t about you.  I never said it was easy, but it definitely helps put things in perspective.  We are responsible for our own happiness and fulfilling our purpose.  Keep your spirits up and your heart and mind open.  Fill your cup first and allow it to overflow to others.