“Grow as you go,” JR Ridinger. I think about the time I’ve wasted waiting for things to be perfect and what it could have looked like had I simply started sooner. It’s all too easy to give into the reasons we have for not getting started before we are ready. We are looking for security and taking the chance before we can see what else comes along with it is terrifying. But there are simply moments in life where we have to take the leap and trust that it will all work out in the end. We have to trust that we will be shown the way as we start moving. Sometimes that’s how life works: the lessons come as we work through them.
Beyond learning to just take the leap, we need to remember that life isn’t just about the destination. At the end of the day we all end up in the same spot: six feet under. It’s what you do with your time while you’re here that matters. That is something I learned late in life and is probably one of my biggest regrets. About a year ago (maybe longer) I wrote a piece about not being able to enjoy the journey because I wanted to get to the destination. At the time I was reading Hello Fears by Michelle Poler and she was describing a trip to a museum where she ended up walking through a market instead of going to the museum. I believe she referenced if she got to the museum she got to the museum, the point was to explore the are where she was. It bothered me because I’m the type of person where if you’re planning on getting to the museum, you’re going to the museum. If that’s what you have planned, then stick with it.
After hearing Ridinger talk about growth and the journey, I can look at my initial perspective differently. I can see the value in taking time and learning along the way. I can see where there may be times when we have to stop and smell the flowers or go to the market and simply connect with something else. Sometimes our plans are irrelevant in the grand scheme of things and we have to take in what’s in front of us rather than forcing our way. Sometimes what we think we have to do isn’t what we have to do. We are meant to learn what the universe has in store for us. That means some days we are along for the ride.
Going back to the beginning of this piece, I can only speak for myself. I know how much time I wasted waiting for perfection. I know how much time I wasted thinking the time wasn’t right for me. Even now, I’m getting messages about enjoying the journey. There are unimaginable things that can come to fruition if we give up what we think we need and start addressing what is right in front of us, what IS. I don’t want to look back on my life in regret because the truth is I did the best I could with what I had. And I can’t take it back regardless. But what I can do is take the time to enjoy what I have now. Learn to grow now so it can take you where you are meant to go.