“You’ll never do something in your life you can’t define; if you can’t articulate something and what it means to you, you won’t put it into practice,” Jay Shetty. This is a nice follow up to the post on distraction. We ended that discussion talking about clarity and how that helps define the steps we need to take to reach our goals. When we set vague intention and take vague action, we get vague results. And if we don’t know why we are doing it, then we have set ourselves up for failure and often stop working toward what we want. It’s like driving with a map toward an unknown destination—if you don’t have a location in mind you’ll drive in circles. You’re moving but you’re not getting anywhere in particular.
I have always been a big dreamer. I thought years in the future and I picked things I wanted like life was an a la carte menu. But I never saw those dreams through to fruition. I’d start a million projects at once and lose interest or get defeated and move onto the next one. Rather than a nice meal, I’d end up with half cooked, half eaten plates. It wasn’t until very recently that I realized my problem was I didn’t give things enough time to develop. The other issue was that I was so insecure that I rarely had the courage to continue with something I wanted if I faced any challenges. I was raised on the misguided belief that if we are meant to have something it will be easy. I never learned to take control of my mind or ownership of my life so I never learned to internalize what the work I did meant to me.
I worked for a paycheck. My jobs rarely felt satisfying even though I was successful. I could do the work but it held little meaning so I continued working because it paid the bills. But the older I got, the louder my dreams became. I started hating the work I did because it was stagnant. Even though I was good at it, it wasn’t my purpose. I still didn’t believe my personal projects held much merit and I was too shy to go out on a limb and share—until I couldn’t hold it in anymore. I started speaking with people and coaching them and I started working in leadership positions in my 9-5. I realized that I had a gift for helping people shape their lives.
In full transparency, I’m still not 100% clear on how I want everything in my life to look, but I am allowing myself to do the things I enjoy now. I’m not waiting for the right time—this is the only time I have. With all of the self-improvement work I’ve done, all the breaking down to get to the root of my issues, and all of the people I’ve worked with, I recognized that there is purpose in the moment. The fact that I am alive means my experiences can be valuable to someone else. But as I am shaping my future, I see how much more direct I need to be. The life I want has always been a nebulous little dream. But as the pieces I’ve defined have fallen into place, this surge of empowerment has come over me and I see how clarity creates results. As Marie Forleo says, “Clarity comes from engagement (action) not thought.”
The universe responds to our actions and the more decisive we can be, the more aligned with what is right for us, the more in tune with our purpose, the more the options open up. As we become clear with where we want to go, the path appears. I truly believe we can do anything we put our minds to. If you are dedicated and sincere and do the work, you will get where you want to be. It doesn’t matter where you start from, it just matters how you move in this world. If you can see the prize in your mind, you can find a way to get there. And always remember, there is more than one way to the top of the mountain. Some paths are more difficult but that doesn’t mean you won’t get there. So take the time to get clear on why you are here. Get clear on what you want. Then go for it.