“The only disability in life is a bad attitude,” via wealth. I can not repeat this enough, and I speak from experience. I lived my life misguided enough to believe that perfection was key. Worse than that, I believed that if you weren’t perfect you shouldn’t even join the team. I spent a lot of years on the sideline, playing the safe route and letting myself get softer and softer while people learned to go after the live of their dreams. It made me bitter and I slipped into victimhood. That gained some sympathy but it got me no closer to where I wanted to be. You can only go so far on the pity of others.
I always say I’m a novice when it comes to self improvement because the journey into self-care and breaking patterns is painful and cyclical. It is always worth it, but there is always work to do. As you repeat the lesson, you will find things you never thought existed or that you thought you already dealt with. So many times we are afraid of dealing with it or we want to control the journey—I definitely fell to the latter category. I wanted to deal with specific things at certain times and, at first, I didn’t have the fortitude to move forward when something triggered me. I allowed it to set me back a lot because it hurt too much. Emotions are essential because they guide us—but left to their own devices, they are tricky, nasty, little bastards.
Emotion will tell you that you can’t do it, that you’ve had enough, or that you’re not even worthy to start. Emotion will tell you that what you do isn’t good enough so why bother. Emotion will tell you that you deserve to stay stuck because of something you did 30 years ago that literally no one remembers. Emotion will tell you that other people’s opinions are more important than your own and that those whispers from other people are reason enough to not move forward. Emotion will tell you if you don’t get it perfect, don’t even bother. If you’re like me, any one of those things is/was enough to stop me in my tracks.
Let me tell you something: there is more value in a little hurt every now and then than there is repeating the same day over and over again for more than two decades. DO THE WORK. Allow yourself to feel it but don’t get swept up by it. Emotions come and go and, believe me, we have the power and the ability to build our own empires. Sometimes society wants us to forget that—people are afraid of power. We are much easier to control when we are distracted and, as pack animals, we are taught that it’s better to fit in than to make waves. I can tell you that is bullshit as well. When we wake up and when we start doing the inner work, an entirely new world opens up to us. Walk through that door.
All of this boils down to you. What are you willing to do to get the life you say want? Are you willing to learn on the journey? Because I can tell you, what I thought I wanted and what I needed were different things. I can’t say I missed the mark entirely, but I didn’t get exactly what I envisioned. And that is ok! I learned to be willing to give up what I thought I needed in favor of what I actually needed. That made a world of difference and the momentum was much greater without holding the brakes of control. While we are allowed to blaze trails in our lives, we don’t always have a say on the path of destiny. The universe takes us where we are meant to be—it’s much easier to go with it. So check yourself; are you pressing the brake when you should be pressing the accelerator? Are you forcing yourself to go straight when you need to turn? Let go, my friend, let go. Adjust yourself and go with it.