“When you learn to simply be, to live in your full nature, free from the dramas of the world, then you will find your true essence and purpose,” Brendon Burchard. Living in your full nature takes a lot of work. It means having the courage to go against the crowd in favor of what is right for you. It means starting the business no one believes in but you—even if sometimes you’re not sure it will work either. It means letting go of the distraction of what the world tells you to do, what you should do and doing what feels right to you. It also means letting go of the distraction of those around you who aren’t serving your purpose. I’m not suggesting not helping people, I’m talking about setting a boundary with the friend who is short on cash—again. Or the friend who is out of the job—again. Or spending some time apart from the friend who still lives with their mom.
I’ve mentioned many times that coming into yourself requires a level of honesty you haven’t experienced before. It requires taking full ownership of things around you. I struggle with taking ownership at times because it isn’t something I’m comfortable with. My ego gets in the way because it is very quick to suggest, “This is NOT your fault, if they listened to you in the first place.” It’s very easy for me to still believe that. I’m still learning how to balance the cards when someone knocks the pot over without a childish or ego based response. It’s hard! In those cases, it most certainly isn’t my fault—and I wouldn’t have to deal with the consequences if it wasn’t for that other person’s actions. But the only thing I can do is deal with what happened, not what SHOULD have happened.
As challenging as it is to fight the ego’s natural response, I will fully admit it feels good to let that go. It feels good to deal with the reality of the situation rather than the potential of it or even what it could have been. Neither of the latter two cases are feasible because they aren’t reality. When we firmly plant our feet where we are and take in the reality around us, we evaluate life differently. Suddenly we don’t feel like a victim, and we don’t react, we respond. There is power in response. Response is thoughtful and strategic and comes from your center.
If we are responding, not reacting, we are connected to who we are. If we are connected to who we are, we are engaged with source and more easily able to find our purpose. Last year I talked about starting small—engage with something you’re curious about. It doesn’t have to start out with a life-changing mission. It can simply start with something you want to know more about. It is often the questions that lead us to the next step. “What if I could do X?” Try X. “I wonder if that means I can do Y…” Try Y. And so on and so on. But you need to be clear and hear what your instincts are telling you. That means not holding back either. Don’t live a watered down version where you partially commit. Fully engage with your life and don’t shy away from what people say. That goes back to letting go of distraction in favor of what feels right. As Marie Forleo says, “The world needs that special gift that you have,” so don’t ignore what you are being called to do. Run out and find it.