The body holds what the mind can’t process. If we review yesterday’s piece on frequency, it may be a little easier to see how this can happen, how the frequency we put out isn’t familiar to us so we end up with dysfunction. The mind is a powerful thing and it will do whatever it can to protect itself. It’s a biological supercomputer that responds to input and based on the programming, it can respond differently to the same input. With that being said, we always need to remember that we are responsible for what we put in the mind. We can choose who and what we surround ourselves with, the content we take in. If we take in negative, eventually the mind expects negative and becomes unfamiliar with how to process or choose positive. When we behave in ways that aren’t aligned with our authentic selves (again, read yesterday’s piece if you haven’t) we are creating misfires in the mind and making it really difficult to function in a natural way.
There is also the trauma facet of this. I know trauma can be a polarizing subject with those who don’t believe in the impact of trauma all the way to those who embrace any opportunity to be a victim. The reality is trauma can be something different for everyone—that is 100% true. Trauma is defined as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience, and I would add that it’s a lingering pattern of negative response/coping tactics to that trigger. When the mind doesn’t understand what happened to itself, or the mind/body/soul, it creates confusion on how to shift the frequency. The body will absolutely shove that down in the body and it will manifest physically. When we seek to move forward in life and adjust our frequency, we need to address these physical components so we are able to sync our mind with our actions. Our thoughts and beliefs need to be aligned with what we do in order to move forward.
On that last part, I want to encourage all people dealing with any type of trauma to understand that coping with trauma means addressing it and talking about it in a relaxed state. The goal isn’t to feel it again, it’s to process it so it can flow out of the body. That isn’t something we need to hold onto. That is something that merely holds us back and keeps us from becoming who we are meant to be. Taking care of ourselves is the best way to process these things. It can start with a simple question like, “Why does my back hurt all the time?” and go down the path of eliminating a physical cause and start looking a little deeper, we may find there are things we are holding onto and those things become a lead weight in our lives. In the process of healing and letting go, in self-improvement, self-care and addressing the physical and mental and spiritual aspect of ourselves needs to be addressed as well. Let go of the fear, and look for the answer.
Gary Brecka is a wealth of information, and if you haven’t heard of him, do yourself a favor, go find him and give him a listen on any social media platform. With that being said, I listened to one of his lectures the other day and he brought up frequency. We’ve been discussing the importance of aligning, frequency, honesty with ourselves, honoring desire for quite some time now—Gary was able to explain WHY this is so important and it blew my mind. We talk and talk in circles about improving ourselves and I truly believe in every word I’ve shared, but even I admit that it’s been challenging to articulate the reason why we need to do this behind it outside of it feeling good to be authentic. Hearing Gary’s discussion on it put all of those words into something tangible and “provable” for those who need a little encouragement/to see it first before jumping into anything. He talked about the SPANE study (The Scale of Positive and Negative Experience) and the measurable results this group was able to find related to frequencies humans emitted when they were feeling certain things (as general as happiness and sadness and as specific as joy and despair).
The result was this: Authenticity is the most powerful frequency to leave the body—four times the amplitude of love. In those terms, being authentic, honest, and aligned with who we are is probably the most important thing we can do. In the grand search for meaning, becoming who we are is as simple (and complex) as it is. Being who we are and learning to work with others in a complementary and communicative way allows us to expand and create in ways that help us, not hinder us. We have to start with decisions that help us as individuals. The other part of this study was defining authenticity and the conclusion was that authenticity only occurs when words are truthful and they believed what they were saying. That in itself is evidence that what we think and what we believe have a massive impact on the results we see in the world. Further this is also evidence that when we align our thoughts/beliefs WITH our actions, we will see the desired results. This means we have some modicum of control over our experience in this life based on what we think and believe.
I don’t take things at face value so I have more to study on this topic, but the findings put logical sense to why we want to monitor our thoughts and behaviors, more specifically why we want to align our thoughts and behaviors. At the most literal level we are energy. When we have an issue with our brains or hearts, we have monitors that literally measure the electrical output—the heart keeps its rhythm through nodes that fire electrical impulses. Our brains light up in different areas depending on the thought or action and emotion associated with it. Our bodies move due to electrical impulses. So we know that our thoughts have specific neural/electrical responses as well and that people respond differently to the same stimuli. Now, being authentic looks differently on everyone—it takes different things for people to feel authentic and we all have unique expressions. But what is the same is the feeling, the frequency emitted when we are authentic. A group of authentically aligned people can learn to harmonize in the most beautiful ways. Each may have different rhythms, but they all work together. Be honest about who we are and align with ourselves and watch life begin to shift.
Today I am grateful for beginnings. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve started in life. How many times I’ve had a burning desire, almost explosive, jumping out of my skin wanting to do something, or for something specific to happen. How many times I thought I had “found my time” and was getting “what was owed” to me. The mark of trauma is martyring ourselves and protecting ourselves from what we really want by not even trying because we think we don’t deserve it. Every time I tried and failed, every time something didn’t happen, I was crushed. But something in me kept going. The cycle repeated because I reacted the same way to the same situation—in order for that to shift, I needed to change the reaction. When we begin again, we can’t carry what happened with us. We need fresh eyes and new ideas. We need new mindsets. Beginnings aren’t necessarily easy, but they are opportunities nonetheless. When the right time comes to launch, do it.
Today I am grateful for love and support. I learned early in my life that I needed to do things for myself. Not that my family didn’t take care of me—they certainly did, all of my needs were met and I was even fortunate enough to have plenty of extra resources and entertainment. But I never thought I could do more than that as far as having dreams of my own and going after them—I never settled on what I wanted because I didn’t think I could do it. I kind of took what came my way, being grateful for that instead of following the hunger for something bigger, something of my own. I never thought I’d be able to achieve anything more or that I needed to prove myself to do it. I isolated myself thinking that I was never worth asking for that kind of help, like my dreams weren’t worthy of assistance. As I’m working through some massive changes, these new beginnings, I’m seeing how vital it is to have people around us that support us. Life requires support and amazing things can happen with the right support. There are times we think we have the right people only to find out they are energy drains or just using us for their benefit. The difference when we find genuine support is astronomical. That type of support can move mountains. It’s an incredibly freeing experience and it’s nice to take away the fear around going after our own dreams.
Today I am grateful for education. I am learning so much every day and I spent a lot of my life thinking I knew it all because I took my education so seriously—I’m talking book education. While I still highly value what I know, I now know that I have an infinite amount more to learn. There are skills that aren’t taught in books and there are skills more valuable than making decisions about people based on what we see on paper. Learning the skills we need to fulfill our purpose is an incredibly life opening experience because we see things in a new light and an entirely new way of being opens up to us. There is nothing like that magnetic feeling of what is meant for us coming our way once we align with that purpose—and having the skills to keep ourselves going in that direction accompanied by the support of people who help us get there (or encourage us) is invaluable. It is literally the doorway to a new life. This world has infinite possibilities, things that can never be captured in words. I had to learn that much of life was a feeling, not a regurgitation of what happened. Once we get in that flow, a whole new world of learning opens to us.
Today I am grateful for joy, community, purpose, and fun. Life changes when we let life change, when we align with what we are meant to do and we stop resisting the calling of what is natural to us. Life is far simpler than we make it—I will be talking about that later this week. We overcomplicate our experience with projections and fears and rejecting what is ours and trying to take what isn’t—comparison and jealousy. But when we let that go and we find what calls to us and we learn to find our purpose, we can relax. The more we let go and we follow joy and fun, the easier that unfolds for us. Joy and fun are what guide us toward the calling. They aren’t meant to be fleeting emotions we feel, they bring us to our community. It can be hard to let go of control, especially if we have been hyper independent—but the support we get from others can be invaluable, especially those who genuinely have our best interests at heart.
Today I am grateful for choices and actions. All this time I thought I was making progress toward a goal, specifically a goal of independence, freedom, and sharing. What I was doing was dipping my toes in, repeating patterns, running in fear the second things got close to something I didn’t know. There is a massive difference when we get serious, let go of the fear, and take the action that moves us forward. When we decide to take it seriously and go for it. There is genuine freedom in that and we learn the simplicity of what we need to do—we simply need to decide on what it is, decide to do it, and then act on it. There isn’t anything holding us back except for our own inaction. The things we say we want won’t come to us until we align with them. I am grateful for the choice to choose my path. I am grateful to be supported, to see the truth in those around me, to know who is for me, to know what I am for, and to know that I can do it. There is a massive shift when we find the confidence in ourselves to do what we say we are going to do. The sense of accomplishment with each step, the joy of doing what we love, the thrill of seeing it come together—that is pure magic. That is the real alchemy of life—taking the vision and making it a reality. There aren’t enough adjectives to explain that feeling, and I am grateful for every one of them—and I wish that feeling for everyone.
“People are anxious to improve their circumstances, but unwilling to improve self,” James Allen. When it comes to choosing things that heal us over kill us, this is an important reminder. So often we fixate on the results and not on the steps that get us there that we either get overwhelmed or we haven’t learned to take responsibility for our actions. We also tend to operate under the “when” theory: when x happens then I’ll be happy. In the states especially, we are conditioned to live in overwhelm and busyness which are merely activities that keep us moving but not necessarily moving forward. We make the mistake of assuming that movement means progress but we don’t take the time to validate the direction we’re going in. We also have a little bit of an issue with entitlement thinking that someone is at fault or someone will come and save us. We have far more power over our lives than we are taught to believe, and with focus and changing our activities, the outcome changes.
I spoke the other week about seeing it when we believe it and I realize how little we are trained to believe in ourselves. Belief in ourselves doesn’t serve the system which creates issues for the top few so it’s dangerous to allow groups of us to be empowered. I bring this up only because I know how difficult it can be to shift the mind toward worthiness, belief in self, and discipline. It isn’t entirely our faults that we are unwilling to do the work on ourselves with the distraction, lack of discipline, the indoctrination of unhealthy habits, fear mongering, the things society praises, etc. In spite of all that, we are still responsible for the results of our lives and until we can accept that, very little will change. Yes it’s easy to dream of something else, yes it’s easy to hope that someone will give it to us, yes it’s scary to start taking control of ourselves—but that is the only way to achieve what we hope for. We need to accept that where we are is a direct result of our choices and actions to that point. There is zero judgement in that statement—if we’re happy where we are, that’s really what matters. But for those that aren’t, playing victim will not change the circumstances, it will only create more issues.
The whole point of this is that shifting belief, and more importantly shifting focus, is necessary for anything to change in our circumstances. Wishing for something without action brings us no closer to the desired result. Taking responsibility isn’t about assigning blame or feeling guilty for any of what has passed in our lives, it’s about making peace with it, taking the lesson from it and moving forward. Changing circumstances is about aligning with what makes sense and what gives us purpose and that means evaluating our beliefs, behaviors, and actions. We all want better but sometimes what we think is better isn’t actually what we need. If we don’t resolve the discrepancy between what we want and our behavior, then we will never get what we want. It all starts with working on the self and becoming what we say we want. The circumstances get better when we get better and we get better when we are most authentic. We don’t need to judge or berate ourselves, we just need the strength to be honest, the courage to start, the fortitude to maintain belief, and the discipline to keep going. Improving self starts with improving the mind and once we do that, that’s when circumstances improve. Just start.
Do things that heal you, not kill you. Someone on my team was talking about this the other day and I know it seems pretty basic or common sense, but when you really think about it, we rarely adhere to this. We do harmful things every day that we consider socially acceptable. People smoke, they drink alcohol, they abuse drugs/pharmaceuticals, they overeat, they eat crap we call food, they don’t move their bodies, they argue a point instead of live it, they separate/isolate and stay stuck in their heads with no connection to self or source, they binge watch TV, they don’t align with what they know they want to do, they think negative thoughts, they stay in toxic situations, they live without believing in themselves, they never take the first step….the list goes on and on. Two things: 1. I don’t profess to be perfect and I have been and still am doing some of these things and 2. I’m not judging anyone dealing with issues pertaining to any of this—we are human and have a lot of indoctrination to undo.
What really got me thinking about these things that kill is how we consider so much of it acceptable or normal while we look at things that heal us as abnormal, uncomfortable, or out there. The bottom line is people cope with life in various ways and what has become acceptable, while evolved over time, hasn’t strayed far from dangerous in a long time. I think it’s because there has been sort of an imagined elitism or separation between people who take care of themselves and those who don’t—I’m guilty of believing that. And there are cases where it isn’t imagined; I used to go to gyms to work out (I joined several different ones) and it was a nightmare going to some of them. What was supposed to be a safe space to find health was a popularity contest. The truth is, like all of life, it’s just a difference in mind set. We have a finite amount of time here and we are able to choose how we spend it, but we are rarely taught to look at the quality of what we do.
There comes a point in everyone’s lives where we understand that we are responsible for where we are and where we are going. When we have goals, especially purposeful goals, we need to evaluate our time differently. Most people are uncomfortable to look at what they do and see how they get in their own way. They struggle or are afraid to see that most of the time they are the ones blocking themselves. I think it’s because whenever we start looking at where we are, we somehow start to feel guilty and look for ways to assign blame instead of taking it for what it is and simply learning to pivot. Taking ownership of our decisions and evaluating the results of our actions means asking ourselves how we can better align with where we are going and what actions will get us where we want to go. Healing is a broad topic and it can mean a lot of things to each of us. Getting honest about what hurts us and what we are choosing to tolerate is the first step. Look at our lives with love and grace and start loving ourselves first and that changes how we look at life—we do more of what serves us to serve others and that in itself is healing.
“Get out of where the stress exists,” Brett Portelli. I needed this reminder. For years, nearly two decades of my life, I settled somewhere because I thought it was the safe path. I thought it was the responsible thing to do. I blatantly saw people try to undermine and sabotage me and I sought a position of power so I would be able to honor my voice and even exert some control at some point. None of that worked and I realized none of that was meant for me. There are certain environments that, for whatever reason, thrive in stress. They thrive in pain and they seek to bring others down. They are the energy vampires. It’s possible to attain energy in these places but it isn’t healthy and it will always leave us wanting more. All our lives we are inundated with a path to take and the majority follow it even if they don’t want to. We can decide that we want to live where we create energy, not drain it from others.
We have the power to make the choice to leave the environments that don’t support our growth. We have the power to decide what we want to do with our time and energy and how we want to create that energy. It isn’t limited. We just thrive in different ways from different things. The key is to know what works for us. Thinking we are being noble or responsible by staying in an environment that hurts us mentally, physically, or just barely helps us get by is nothing but a drain. Someone else is thriving off of our energy and work. Here’s the secret: we are allowed to cut ties and walk away. It may be scary as anything unfamiliar is at first. But that decision can be the best decision of our lives. The day we take ownership of what we want and set the boundary for what we will and will not tolerate shifts the sail toward a bigger destiny than we thought. Even if we can’t see the big picture, taking that first step is a huge choice.
I also want to send this reminder that what we are told is the safe choice creates safety in a box. It can be the most dangerous choice we make because it suffocates us while telling us it’s trying to keep us safe and protected. It’s more dangerous when we feel the discrepancy between our thoughts/desires and our actions. When we feel the difference between what we are capable of and what we actually spend our time doing. It will eventually drive us mad unless we spend so much time in distraction that we forget what we ever wanted in the first place. Don’t ever give up our desires, don’t ever stop listening to the inner voice telling us what we are capable of. Make choices that support those dreams, those thoughts, and believe that anything is possible. It can be done. Make the first move and look at then environment around us—if it helps us, great. If it hinders us, it’s time to consider changing it. And if we can’t change it then we need to consider removing ourselves from it. No one will fix it but us—we can and we are meant to. Remove the stress or remove ourselves from it. Move forward.
“How much longer will you continue to say not yet?” Tabitha Brown. What an absolute beautiful follow up to yesterday’s post about getting out of our own way, I swear I can’t make up the timing of when these messages come through. We are clearly being told: We are the ones holding ourselves back. We keep asking for the thing and then backing out. We keep saying we’re not ready by not aligning with the vibration and frequency of the thing. That alignment means giving up what we knew—it means getting out of our own way. It means believing in ourselves fully, and when that belief takes over, suddenly we see everything we’ve been looking for. Let’s put this in perspective with an easy: We have a desire to write a book. Instead of sitting and starting the work, we save files, we take notes, we record information but we tell ourselves it isn’t enough so we never actually sit and start the work. Let’s dig a little deeper. We have a desire to be rich and to not worry about money but every time we spend money, we feel guilt or fear. Or we spend frivolously and waste our resources. That’s telling the universe we aren’t ready to align with what we say we want.
Sometimes the truth of how we refuse our gifts is pretty blatant. Others are quieter. We think we are being modest when we are being self-deprecating. We think we are being helpful when we are being taken advantage of. We think we are being loyal by staying where we are being hurt. We think we are being responsible when we stay in a toxic environment. Anything can change when our priorities change. The world opens when we shift our focus. We’ve spoken many times about energy and focus—specifically energy flows where focus goes. So when we remove the engrained and indoctrinated ideas like loyalty, modesty, responsibility to people and we replace them with loyalty to ourselves and source first, humility and understanding, and alignment with our path/responsibility to ourselves, the cup starts to fill and run over. That’s when the magic happens. We are trained to believe that we can’t handle that kind of magic and power but the truth is we ARE that magic and power. We are all meant to share that kind of light and that message.
So the reminder is two fold: 1. let go of the things that create our blocks. Get really honest and look at the gaps between what we say we want and what we are doing to achieve it. Learn how to get out of our own way. 2. Believe we are capable of handling it and stop self-sabotaging—get out of the way and start aligning with what works. Start aligning with the new way of being. Remember to follow through. Stop questioning our worth and whether we deserve the thing and start recognizing the gift as our own and align with it. The rest will take care of itself. We just have to learn to let go of what we thought we knew and stop delaying what is ours. It’s waiting for us to take it and create something big with it. It’s waiting for us to pick it up and run with it. If we feel it, if we think it, we can create it here in this reality. Stop saying not yet and start working on one step at a time. Have patience and belief and start the work. That’s all it takes: one shift in mindset and taking action. Instead of not yet, it becomes yes, now.
Get out of the way to see the way. Over the last few weeks we’ve talked a lot about perception, setting the tone, clarifying goals, and honoring purpose. Today I want to talk about how we block ourselves because there are so many ways we stop ourselves from achieving greatness, many of them unconscious or subconscious to us. Sometimes when we feel stuck, we need to understand that we have to go back to the start in order to figure it out. I’m not saying rehash every moment in our lives until we resolve every issue—we can’t redo time but we can learn to reconcile how we feel about it. Much of what we deal with, much of what we carry stems from the time we formed our opinion of ourselves, our abilities, and what we saw around us during our formative years. In order to progress, we have to move that junk out of the way because we know with a clear path we can move forward.
The subconscious blocks are things we have like the automatic habits or thoughts as we move throughout our day. The thought, “I don’t have enough money,” or, “I wish he/she would stop doing this,” or even, “I hate my job/car/house/situation/bank balance etc. etc. etc.” are things that stop us from achieving what we want to because we are blocking the potential for what can be with negative thoughts around what already exists. If we aren’t grateful for what we have and if we don’t appreciate what it took to get there, then what makes us think that we would be able to handle more or an elevated circumstance? We have to resolve our mindset in order to progress. We have to manage the thoughts and control our pattern of thought if we are going to work from a new paradigm. It’s about shifting the energy.
There are times we don’t want to admit that we are responsible for our own blocks. It seems counterintuitive. Why would we ever stop ourselves from achieving what we want? Why would se stop ourselves from feeling good and being successful? Because we aren’t used to that. Because it doesn’t feel familiar. Because it doesn’t feel good at the start. Waking up and getting out of our own way can feel like waking up with a bad hangover or a terrible dream. It’s heavy, it can be painful, and it’s exhausting at times. Learning an entirely new way of life and a new way of functioning takes practice and time and it is work—it’s just more rewarding work. If we seek to get to the other side, that is the work we must do. We must learn to take responsibility for what is blocking us and work toward the other side. It isn’t like flipping a light switch. It’s like changing one bulb at a time until the entire path is illuminated. And once it is lit, it is glorious. Choose to see where we aren’t stuck. Choose to move forward. Do the work and step out of the way.
Be a thermostat, not a thermometer—we set the tone, we don’t react to the environment. I like this one as a follow up to the idea of chasing freedom and letting go of stress. As animals, we naturally react to the circumstances around us—we are designed to constantly evaluate for danger and to respond through fight or flight. Our bodies respond to stress the same way we would a predator. The other side of this is that we are also trained to adapt to our surroundings so when we are constantly exposed to stress on a regular basis, our body begins to adapt and get used to being in stress. Like we spoke about on Saturday, we can choose how we respond to the environment. We can choose our viewpoint and we can choose to shift how we perceive the situation. That is how we become a thermostat. The more we decide how we feel in a given situation and the more we decide how we WANT to feel, the easier it is to set the field. We don’t have to react to everything, we can decide where and how to expend our energy.
When it comes to success in life, success in our goals, and success with managing/achieving our dreams, we need to have a level of control. As I mentioned the other day, we have a lot we can control internally, so determining how we feel and how we will react is key. We have that power. When we allow ourselves to constantly react to the situation around us, we are always behind the 8 ball so to speak. More accurately, we become the target ball, waiting for something to hit us and tell us which way to go. Learning to set the tone in a given space, learning to operate with intention puts us further ahead than being swayed by what’s happening. This is different than flow, because there is a balance between being in flow and being taken by flow and reacting. I want to clarify again that this isn’t about control, this is about controlling ourselves. When we keep the focus on the goal, we operate differently. We decide differently. That means we get different results.
I want to be clear that we all need to have the ability to be a thermostat at some points in our lives. We need to be able to read the room with the context and purpose of whether or not it aligns with our goals. But once we get the read on the environment, we can decide if we are going to work to shift that atmosphere or if we are going to walk away. There are a lot of unknown factors in this life, but if we can gain emotional control and decide what actions are in alignment with our goals and purpose, it becomes easier to see the truth of what is happening, determine what works for us, and to choose to walk away from things that no longer serve including stress and people who inhibit growth. There is power in setting the thermostat in our lives and there is freedom in choosing what we focus on and what we engage with. Don’t let others distract from what our focus needs to be. Set the tone, don’t react.
Today I am grateful for belief and alignment, specifically the feeling that happens when fostered by belief and alignment. I’ve recently made some decisions that involved taking control of my life at a new level. Something finally clicked where I understood the magnitude of taking action. Yes, I’ve always known this, yes I still have old habits and fears, but making a choice that simultaneously feels good, brings results, and feels natural is unlike anything else. I too often vacillated between this feeling and feeling like crap or like I was obligated to feel differently. Like there would be some reward at the end for feeling miserable. While waiting for some answers at my 9-5, it hit me: I’m waiting for someone to make a decision about my life for me and that is the furthest thing from what I want to do. Knowing what I want to do and believing that I’m able to take action—and then taking action—changed that. We have one life and I do not want to wait for someone to make a choice for me in what I’m doing. I want to be in this alignment all the time. I believe that it is possible to feel this good when we remove ourselves from the negativity and when we are doing what we know we are meant to do. I choose to follow that path even if it takes some time to walk that path.
Today I am grateful for the creative surge. I have come to understand that I am an incredibly creative individual and that involves getting away from the standard or accepted way of doing things. I was trying for a long time to keep a foot planted in the world I was in because it pays the bills as well as moving toward something more fulfilling. Accepting myself for who I am and being honest about what I enjoy shifted me toward more possibilities and has opened the door to new ways of doing things. My brain goes a million miles an hour but it used to be negative, fearful thoughts. Now those thoughts trend toward creation. It can be overwhelming because I’m trying to capture each of the creative ideas, but it’s an overwhelm of love. It’s an overwhelm of joy at the possibilities of expression in what I’m doing. I love being in that flow, in that energy where anything can happen. The goal isn’t always notoriety or getting something out of it, the creative process is there for its own merit.
Today I am grateful for time. Our family has a ton of October birthdays so we are in the thick of many celebrations. The age range is vast (spanning over 75 years in some cases) so it’s fascinating to see how people feel and what their lives/emotions look like at different stages of the game. We are never promised anything (even more reason to do the things that make sense for us and feel aligned with our purpose/who we are) and understanding how valuable life is, is key. If we are gifted with the privilege of life, it is our responsibility to fill that life with love, joy, connection, and purpose. It is our responsibility to put aside the distraction and block out the messages of fear and hurt others spread thinking they are being helpful or realistic. There are absolutely moments of reality that we need to contend with and make amends with, but what they don’t’ tell us is that this world is also of a different reality: the reality that we are meant to live in expansiveness, creating joy and flow and building new ways. Use time well, create time by doing things you love.
Today I am grateful for friends that care. These last few months have been incredibly busy. It got to the point where I wasn’t sure how much more we could fit in and we were still being asked to participate and do things—the weekends were full and weeknights were becoming a tight squeeze as well. I have been working with my family on saying yes more because I know we need to get ourselves out there into new experiences and I don’t want our lives to become all work and no play. With that being said, we’ve had many nights where we were consecutively booked with multiple things, yesterday was one of them. The first event we went to went a bit longer than we thought and I didn’t make the best choices as far as self-care goes. When we got to the second event for the evening, my friends knew I wasn’t feeling the greatest and instead of encouraging more bad choices they offered food. I told them I was ok and didn’t want to impose. When I went upstairs, my friend had already prepared a plate for me. I didn’t know it at first, but that simple act was exactly what I needed. It was so sweet—and that is real caring. Friends who do things that make you healthy, not tear you down.
Today I am grateful for opportunity. Do you ever notice how sometimes when we think things are falling apart, if we get over our fear and really break it down, it isn’t that bad—not only is it better than we thought, but perhaps we’re totally off base and the issue is completely solvable with a simple action. I’ve always been one of those people who was afraid to look at the reality of a situation if I thought it got too bad. Just as an example, money. If I overspent or if things were legitimately tight, I’d be terrified to check my bank account, but when I finally did, I’d see that I was always perfectly fine. My husband and I have been working our business for several years and we are in the weeds of it now. I had been so overwhelmed with how to move forward and I didn’t want to look at any of the data because I was afraid that it would be so bad that it would show what we’ve/I’ve been doing for the last several years was all for nothing. Instead, I just found out that there is a new opportunity for me and I am closer to where I want to be—like months closer. We just need to finish a few more things and I can’t believe how much life is going to change. Never be afraid—go for it. We may be surprised how close we actually are and that the situation isn’t as overwhelming/scary as we made it out to be. Take the deep breath, tear off the band-aid, and take some action.
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