“Remember those who understood you before you even started explaining. Those are your people,” unknown. I heard someone mention that they became friends with someone really quickly because she didn’t have to tell the other person how to be her friend. I’m not disparaging quick connections—I’ve had them myself—but the latter point bothered me because it insinuates we need to bend and become something else to befriend someone. Like we need lessons to be their friend. In my mind that differs greatly from being understood before explaining. When we understand without explanation, it’s the shared knowledge/empathy/experience that connects us because we’ve been there. Make no mistake, those experiences tend to bond us but I don’t pretend that all of those people are my people either. Like, we may have a shared experience of going to the museum or to an amusement park but that circumstance doesn’t mean we understand each other—sure we know what it means to go on the same ride, but that doesn’t mean we know the person. So there is a fine line in connection and it comes down to truly knowing ourselves. And there is also a difference between explanation and justification. I might need to give you detail on how we got where we are but I don’t need to prove I had a right or a reason to be there.
I worry a lot today, especially when I see the relationships my son is forming with people as he gets older. There truly seems to be this near delusional expectation that feelings are everything. It’s confusing because these kids are told it’s ok that they failed and made mistakes yet we still determine where they go next based on those grades. I bring this up because we’ve set the stage for the belief that if people don’t behave exactly as we need them to, then they are somehow bad. The fact that we expect people to bend to us at all is ridiculous—there are 8 billion people in the world, we can’t behave in 8 billion ways to make them all happy. The truth is this: we ALL seek to be understood. We all seek acceptance—we’re social creatures and want to be part of the crowd. The people who understand our actions and accept who we are while helping us become better, those are our people. Anyone who demands you become something else in their presence is not. Those who demonstrate understanding know the range and depths of what we’ve been through and know how to help us navigate through it. Anyone who demands justification or proof that we’re a friend is someone who will make us jump through hoops at their discretion.
The world is hard enough to navigate these days. It’s hard to discern fact from fiction and it’s even harder to tell what’s even REAL. Not just the truth but what actually even exists. We’ve created a world of illusion whether it’s presenting a specific façade to others or outright creating something not real (AI generated experiences perhaps…this isn’t to knock AI, in fact it’s to commend it because it’s real enough that we need to question it). We need each other more than ever and we need genuine connection more than ever. Those relationships help ground us and guide us and they remind us that we aren’t alone. Anyone who makes us “earn” the right to be in their presence isn’t a true friend and truly isn’t worth our time. We can say thanks for the lesson and move on—we don’t need to add fake friends to the list of fake things in this world. And just remember that the gut doesn’t lie. If we know someone isn’t genuine or that the don’t have our best interests at heart, we need to trust it. Understanding comes with time and patience and experience, not with someone else’s demands. So take a look at the people in our inner circles and ask what their connection is. Is it conditional? Or is it genuine? We know the answer and we know the tribe that calls to us. Don’t lose them.
“The universe will never give you peace in something you were never meant to settle in,” unknown. This is one of those quotes I felt in my bones. For the last 6 months I’ve been recycling the sickening behavior of people we considered friends over and over. It’s repeated so much I’ve allowed it to infiltrate my home and even had me questioning whether or not we should stay here. I’ve had conversations with source (albeit one-sided) asking to help fix it, to help me understand what went wrong. I even asked why this pattern kept repeating. I took ownership for my part in it as the common denominator in the circumstance and I heard nothing. I thought with time that I would move on and feel more settled and come to peace with it. Don’t get me wrong, I have to a degree. But as the thoughts continue to surge and evolve, I’m realizing something: this started when I stopped playing their game. This started because a boundary was crossed without any consideration for our feelings while the expectation was that we would obey whatever they said, and that we could read their minds. Why am I fighting to be part of something that will only accept me if I change? Why am I wanting to be part of something that doesn’t reciprocate? Why am I trying to keep up with what they tell me to do for their benefit? It hit me like a lighting bolt after reading this quote: the turmoil is still there because I’m trying to settle where I don’t belong.
This may not be a physical location—perhaps it is, the jury is still out on that part—but it is most certainly in regards to my state of mind and how I see myself. How can I find peace in accepting what they did to us and trying to prove I’m worthy of those who don’t even understand me? This isn’t what I’m meant to be doing and I’m cutting off my own wings trying to make people happy who don’t even know how to walk yet. I say this not out of ego but out of understanding that we are simply in different stages in our lives and they may not have anywhere else to go yet—I do. There’s no judgement in that either but the realization that I don’t have to stop my journey because they tell me to. I’m not happy with this circumstance because I’ve gotten stuck in the mire created by those too selfish and blind to see they’ve peaked here or to understand what they’re asking of others. I haven’t done everything perfectly but I know I am not meant to be held back by their opinions. Or anyone’s opinion for that matter. And I don’t want to settle anymore. I don’t want to settle for what other people tell me is enough. I don’t want to find contentment if I’m not fulfilling my potential or functioning in my purpose. We can’t do that if we are in the wrong environment—physically or mentally.
So in that vein, I also found this quote: “The universe will never give you peace in things that poison your light. And that’s not cruelty. That’s love dressed as a lesson waiting to set you free,” Annaya Mahale. I recognize now that in dealing with these particular individuals I was operating in old habits. I tried to prove I was the best friend, that I was good enough, that I was generous enough, that I could fit in with all of them. I thought I was meant to fit in and it’s only now I’m seeing I was meant to stand out. The people I thought were my friends, some of them close enough I considered them family, were spreading poison in my life, expecting me to dim my light to make them comfortable. So it’s no wonder that I haven’t been able to find peace. Even the act of trying to take the blame for these things is the old me. I’m all about accountability but I see this group wanted me to take all the blame and that wasn’t the truth. We find peace when we find ourselves even if that means going through some painful lessons. Sometimes it takes a while to see where the poison is coming from or who is creating the storm. And we are never meant to settle until we find what is ours. We may be asking for peace on the hill when Source wants us to find peace on the mountain. It can be difficult to push ourselves but once we learn to not settle for anything less than what we deserve, we fully understand that we won’t find true peace because that isn’t for us.
“Be creative—in your thoughts, in your feelings, and in all of your actions. Apply your own uniqueness to everything you undertake,” Wayne Dyer. We learn through doing and we learn who we are through doing. We learn what makes us tick, all the little things that make our hearts sing. When we find those ingredients that add up to the spice of life, we need to sprinkle that all over the world. We are merely meant to be ourselves, not some contrived and fabricated version the world wants us to be. Not the person anyone expects us to be. We are made as we are for a reason and we are each gifted with unique talents and viewpoints and we are meant to meld that into whatever we do so we leave our mark on the world. We truly aren’t meant to play small. We aren’t meant to hide who we are. So pick up the mantle of who we are meant to be and approach everything we do with our own personal touch. That’s what makes it special.
“You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant,” Harlan Ellison. I love this. I can amend this to say that everyone is entitled to their own opinion but they aren’t entitled to share it if it isn’t true (misinformation) nor are they entitled to demand others believe as they do. The point of discourse is to arrive at an informed conclusion with each side contributing knowledge that builds on a premise to form a big picture. We’ve degraded the purpose of thought and discussion to people needing to hear the sound of their own voice. We’ve made intelligent discussion around facts “aggressive.” People tend to value their feelings over fact and it’s become more important to feel good than it is to make informed decisions. With all of this being said, it isn’t necessary to “muse and ponder” all day or to “wax poetic” on different ideas like philosophers before us. But we do need to reach a common ground and that can only happen if we are willing to discuss the facts.
Everyone has opinions and everyone feels things in relation to specific topics. There are things that have a greater impact on certain areas of our lives so we may prioritize them over other things and there are things that have no bearing whatsoever on us. So here is a little rule of thumb: if we haven’t taken the time to discover the truth and consider the facts, if we haven’t experienced whatever it is we’re talking about, if we weren’t present to witness some revelation on the matter—our voice isn’t needed in that moment. If we aren’t contributing something of value to the circumstance, we should stay silent. The more we allow feeling to be portrayed as fact, the more out of touch we become as we stretch to accommodate everyone’s feelings. When we have a platform to share (and we all do now thanks to social media) it’s up to us to use it responsibly. I’m not saying people don’t make mistakes even with due diligence and I’m not saying that we can’t simply have fun. But I am saying we need to be more aware of what comes out of our mouths.
This world rushes to be in the know as fast as possible. Time is money in so many regards that we no longer seem to care whether or not what we say is helpful, kind, or relevant—we just have to get the information out there. We want to be the first to talk about whatever situation or scenario is out there and everything is out there for people to see now. It isn’t conducive to finding the truth. How often have we gone back and corrected ourselves after digging more? Shock value seems to be the way and we are creating waves of long term discord and unrealistic expectations and beliefs. We need to hold ourselves to a higher degree of accountability—be clear on what we say and what we mean and align our actions with our words. No one gets to remain ignorant and claim they know the ways of the world. The ironic part is that most people are pretty savvy with recognizing when people aren’t being truthful or when they don’t really know what they’re talking about. I know I can sense when I’m not fully informed on something. So if we are aware of this, then we can break the habit and start ensuring we know enough about something to have the conversation or we are willing to learn. Ignorance isn’t always bliss—sometimes it’s dangerous.
Today I am grateful for reminders of balance of the human ego. It’s been a tough week in the family as we’ve been navigating multiple health issues. We’re trying to deal with these things miles apart and with varied degrees of strain in our relationships with specific members of our family, each of us learning to assume a role. It hit me that ego can be the death of us in so many ways. For the sake of proving she’s “worth it,” one would rather literally bankrupt another for the sake of proving their value—or reminding this person of their value. So to get the attention you’ve been wanting, you’re willing to destroy your own future? Seeing that put it in perspective how ridiculous the human ego can be for the sake of validating ourselves and proving we’re right. I realized that’s not a battle I care to fight personally and I certainly can’t fight that for someone else. I’m grateful for the reminder because I’ve felt myself get to that edge many times, looking for someone to tell me how worthy I am and how willing they are to sacrifice for me. I wanted to see their actions match what I’d done for them…and it was a total waste of time. I’m glad it’s been a long time since I’ve felt the need to do that, but I know where that urge comes from. I’m grateful for the reminders to keep that in check.
Today I am grateful for reminders about boundaries. I’m increasingly aware of my inability to do it all. I had a habit of taking the reins without letting anyone know because it was easier to do it and it made me feel like if I could carry the burden for others, perhaps they’d appreciate it. In some cases they did, in others they felt like I was just trying to be controlling. But I realized in all the running around, in prioritizing my family (because I have a younger child), that I can’t nor do I want to continue to do it all on my own. I can play my part and we can divide the work in a way that won’t drive us crazy. We still need to do a better job of communicating what needs to be done but the act of dividing the work made it all the more tolerable to deal with. It made me appreciate my own limits and the realization of what I did and didn’t want to (or was able) deal with. It’s ok to have limits, even when it comes to helping. Perhaps it’s most important when it comes to helping.
Today I am grateful for sorting out and clarifying priorities. These last few months have flown by (most of this year has flown by if I’m honest) and it put me in a position of total overwhelm. Things started to come faster and faster and I wasn’t sure how to keep up. I wasn’t sure how I found myself at this time of year already. In all the chaos of transition this year, even with being sick, I still managed to get the house ready for the holidays. Now with circumstances being what they are, we’re not able to host the holidays here. My ego, heart, and soul went through some stages of grief with that, however, it has shown me something: time doesn’t have control over us if we don’t let it. This year wound up like a freight train gathering speed and pulling me along with it because of all the things I wanted to do—and forced myself to do. I have this cycle where there are years I feel like I’m totally on it, a powerhouse that can’t be stopped, and then there are times like this where I can barely remember to put the dishes away. I’m tired of allowing outside circumstances dictate and distract and even derail the overall goals I’ve had. So, I’ve realized that my energy needs to be more carefully and purposefully managed. If I don’t want time to get away from me, I need to pay attention to what I’m doing and stick with what I have laid out as the goal. And don’t misunderstand, I love the holidays and I would have decorated regardless, however, feeling like I did this year, I likely would have toned it down a bit and expected others to be ok with that. It made me realize that certain messages I have aren’t received the way I intend them so it’s best to focus on what I need to do and let people do what they need to. With that shift in focus and priority, I feel like I will stay on track in the game.
Today I am grateful for moving forward. This was such an interesting year for me—and I will review that more as I get to the end of year stuff. I truly have so much to be grateful for and I’m working diligently to keep that at the center of my focus. There was a lot to celebrate. I’ve also realized that I don’t always deal with transition very well and I have some things to work on there. With all of that being said, this year was a MAJOR shift for me in so many ways—professionally with changing careers, personally with different relationships (familial, friendship, romantic), and inner-personally with dealing with mid-life and the reality of who I am, what I’ve done, and what I still want to do. In order to move forward, we all have to learn to adapt to change. Even change we ask for. I had longed for the moment my life would look closer to what it does right now. It took me longer to acclimate to the reality of it than I thought (especially after playing it out in my head for so long) but with those changes came the reminder that sometimes the things we want impact us in ways we didn’t see coming. There are challenges even in the good, even in the things we ask for. As I said above there were moments that felt like they blindsided me and moments I felt on top of my game. That’s life. But now I know that in order to move forward we have to be fully committed and fully on that train. It’s time to purge again. It’s time to get really honest about a plan forward. I see the goal, I see the vision of the end goal but it’s time to shed the extra pieces I’ve been carrying under the guise of “What if.” It’s time to stop preparing for every inevitability in life and start preparing for what’s needed to achieve the goals. It’s time to focus on what’s wanted and take steps in that direction and leave the rest behind. THAT is moving forward.
Today I am grateful for courage. In spite of feeling weak in the past year due to changes in friendships and other relationships, I’ve found strength to move forward in ways I didn’t know I had. I made choices to change the overall trajectory of what life looks like for me because I wanted something more conducive to the big picture. It was scary and it created a stir in my routine and habits and it didn’t go exactly as I anticipated but I kept moving forward. Change, even desired change, takes courage. With all the stressors, both internal and external over the last few weeks/months, I’ve seen over and over again that change takes courage, clarity, and confidence. Even desired change can be challenging. Change means letting go of the familiar in favor of something new even if we don’t see all the nuances of what’s new and what’s to come. We are fast approaching 2026 and I am determined to not get sidelined or sideswiped or dragged along by anything this year. This is about eyes on the prize and clarity. This is about gratitude for how far we’ve come and our willingness (my willingness) to continue to move forward no matter what it looks like. This is about a new degree/level of balance and focus. I’m not saying it will be easy and I’m well aware that not everything goes to plan. But moving forward knowing the plan will at least give us a course to stay on. I’m truly ready to move forward. I’m ready to leave behind the things the universe is telling me to leave. I’m ready to let go of the idea of potential or the nostalgia of what was in favor of the effort to be who I’m meant to be. Picking up the full mantle of who we are is one of the most courageous things we can do. In these last few weeks of this year, I’m making peace with those pieces of the past that still linger and I’m preparing for the move forward. That is one of the biggest leaps I can take and I’m grateful for it.
I’m not sure where the sense of needing to be the best, needing to be responsible for it all, needing to ALWAYS get it right, needing to do everything alone, needing to do it ALL comes from. WE can talk about pressures and distraction and how everyone is “on” all the time. We can talk about how connected everyone is even though we’ve never been more disconnected from ourselves. We can talk about survival and worth. The thing is there has always been something innately in the human animal that makes us strive to be on top. Of course there’s the survival mechanism, that’s obvious, but this is more than that. We set expectations on ourselves that no one could possibly attain and we get angry at ourselves if we don’t make it. We act as if we are some all powerful being who should be above any type of human limitation. I’m not talking fantasy world, I’m talking about the expectation that our calendars are filled and we somehow have to balance our schedule with our family’s lives all while looking cool, calm, collected, and leaving the smallest carbon footprint with our homegrown organic food and meal prepping and working out every single day and running multiple businesses because a single 9-5 doesn’t support us any longer and if we take any time off we’re falling behind.
I found myself churning through some pretty disparaging and mean thoughts with increased frequency lately because it felt like I couldn’t get through the day. I couldn’t complete a single task that I wanted no to. I struggled to keep my word to myself even for the things I WANTED to do. I looked at my schedule and saw that there were a lot of conflicting things, there were some vague notes about what I had to do, lists of what should be done with no real task assigned. Life felt chaotic and I was trying to do everything at once to keep us afloat. I could barely find time to clean the house let alone create this free-flowing success living the dream all the time where everything is in its place and everyone plays their role. I found myself constantly repeating how I should be able to do this. I was the one who said yes, I started all this, I agreed to it, I even wanted some of it. But I had no thoughtful or meaningful plan for execution and no clear goal in sight. I know that’s a problem, however, I convinced myself that I was on top of it all and I found ways to push through and get it all done even if it meant giving up my sanity and the actual goal. Which I did give up. I don’t know what made me think I could do more than the average person or that I needed to. I mean, I have an idea but that’s an entirely different piece. I cried out asking for help, begging for a way to keep everything afloat, to get to the next piece of dry ground, frustrated that I couldn’t seem to get it together.
I heard something tell me to stop apologizing for being human. Nothing, no higher being had asked me to do all these things. No higher being, no other person had said I needed to do all the work I’ve been trying to do. No one said that I needed to say yes to everything. No one said I needed to do all that work as some sort of penance. No one said I needed to be super human and do it all. None of us are held accountable to being more than human. I don’t know when our culture deemed being human and expressing our humanity was a weakness as if we needed to be extraordinary at everything we do in order to be worthy. There are thousands of moments and opportunities throughout the day that show us what a gift it is to simply be alive. We’re the ones who decided the way to find meaning in life was to constantly do something. I fully agree that we all need a purpose—but our purpose isn’t to do everything or to fill every single moment with doing something. We need to recognize that humanity is nothing to apologize for. If we were created to be a certain way then that is all we need to be. It serves better to do what we are meant to do well rather than stretch ourselves to the breaking point doing everything half-assed and overwhelmed. There’s a lot of life to live and we can’t regret who we are because we miss the boat on an impossible standard. We have nothing to apologize for in regards to our capacity. Our best is enough.
“It’s ok to have a season of separation,” Kevin Duong. I would amend that to say a season of separation is necessary. We have to extricate ourselves from whatever it is that holds us back, whatever it is that creates that feeling of constriction in our chest. Even if it’s from the people, habits, or things we know I can talk about this in the context of a million things because it applies to a million things—a bad job, a negative mindset, a habit that doesn’t serve, the people who treat us poorly, distraction, whatever it is. The question of what we may or may not need separation isn’t really optional. We all carry baggage or SOMETHING we no longer need. We need to ask why we’re holding onto it. Truly, I know that we don’t always know what we’re holding onto. That weights heavy on me near the holidays because my life shifts at that time of year: I want to make everyone happy. I want to bring back the nostalgia and emotion and joy of what we all felt years ago. I want to create magic. But in holding on so tightly to what was, I eliminate what IS or what could be. The old image I have in my mind is highly romanticized and I want to bring that back to those around me, those I love. But I need to separate from the idea of bringing back old memories because I’ve learned that their memories aren’t the same as mine. They feel differently than I do.
I also understand that separation can be difficult because we are often taught to stick with something until we can’t. It’s hard to let go of the familiar. And truthfully sometimes we don’t even know what’s holding us back. But I will say if we continually say yes to things we haven’t thought through or things that serve someone else’s goal and not ours, we will get buried. If we constantly say no we will end up wiping out all of our opportunities. That may be a habit we have to stop as well. We need to recognize that we need something different. Knowing we need something different opens our eyes to the things we need to let go of. Life can be heavy enough as it is. We’ve designed so many systems that benefit a select few on the efforts of those we decide have to fall in line. If life feels heavy like we’re buried then that’s a good indication there’s something we need to let go of. People we know will balk at the change and wonder why we’re no longer playing the game the same way. They will say we’re different. To that we must say, “That’s the point.” We will never get anything different if we’re always doing what we’ve always done. We won’t change if we are constantly trying to live the same memories over and over again to capture feelings we thought were better than the present. Try putting the burden down. Try letting go of what we’re told we need to carry. Separate from what we knew and see what we learn to welcome the new. Sometimes all it takes is a little separation to get clarity. We don’t need all we thought we did. Welcome the separation to welcome what we’ve been waiting for.
“A no changes nothing but a yes can change everything; No is only two letters, Yes is three–why are we afraid of hearing the smaller word? Here’s the thing, when someone says no, we have nothing to lose. I’d be in the same exact position and situation and it’s even better because I have less stress from no longer thinking about it, I’ve removed that stress. But if they say yes and become a director that can change your life. We have nothing to lose with no except maybe pride or ego,” Marc Bernacchi. I was listening to a conference the other day and this perspective on “no” came up. When we put it in perspective, it is kind of ridiculous how we allow fear of hearing that word dictate our actions. If we never take the chance then we will never have the opportunity whereas if we go for it and hear no, at least we opened a door or a potential door to something else. I love the idea that “no” changes nothing. In that regard it solidifies the idea that there’s no reason to NOT go for something, to not take the chance, to not give it a shot. Worst case scenario, we end up where we are and in the best case, we end up where we’ve always wanted to be—or on that path.
Words are powerful and will form a pathway in our minds. The words we repeat create the ideas and beliefs and systems and values we follow. It’s important to keep perspective on our words and to remember that we are in control of the thoughts that go through our head. The reasons we wouldn’t go for something are based on our beliefs in or abilities or what those around us think just as much as the things we’d take a chance on. The perspective is always are. Sure, there are scenarios we need to weigh to determine the best odds. We have to know when there is risk involved and if the reward is worth it. We also need to remember that there is no point in suffering over something that we have every bit of control over and if we continually build the anticipation, eventually that pressure will be too much. So instead of thinking we need to know all the answers or that we need to know the outcome 20 steps from now, just ask ourselves what’s the worst that can happen from taking a chance right now. Even if we don’t get exactly what we were hoping for, there is still a reward because we gain confidence to go for things that matter to us. We learn to trust ourselves and our abilities and our beliefs and we learn to see possibilities others may not.
The point is this: it’s always up to us. The actions we take are either bringing us closer to our goals or further from them. The more we say no, the more doors we close to the potential paths that would lead to a desired outcome—or something even better. There is a time and a place to say no, but if the goal is to create change or to spark some inspiration, then no isn’t going to get us there. We have to say yes to the experiences we want and start saying no to what we don’t want. And the truth is we so often put more pressure on ourselves because we think we have to have all the answers when sometimes the only way we find the answer is to go through it. We deny ourselves that chance every time we say no. So learn to take the chance on what we want in life. It really does come down to this: we are often one decision away from changing our lives. We are either staying the same or evolving and it’s always right at our fingertips. You never know when inspiration will strike or when things will align just right and all the pieces come together exactly as we need. So be clear on what we want and decide to go for it, decide to welcome it. “No” may be what we know—but “yes” can be the beginning we’re looking for.
“Silence isn’t empty. It’s where your real clarity waits,” Uriel Maksumov. Silence scares me. The brain is designed to protect and it is designed to take in input, process it, create understanding, elicit an action or response of some kind. The brain is designed to move and is constantly trying to solve problems so to find answers in silence seems a bit counterintuitive. Also, with the elevated frustrations over the last few days, asking for help into what feels like nothingness felt particularly futile. I could see where people feel the emptiness of it. I mean, I hate having one sided conversations and I’m nervous in silence with others so I will always find something else to talk about. I hate the awkwardness between topics where you’re trying to figure out what to say—I prefer to keep it going and learn now things. I’m also an excited talker so when I have an idea I tend to just spit it out—it truly isn’t meant to be rude, I just love sharing ideas. At the same time I’m a proponent of listening to find the answers within and I’ve talked about that many times—but when you start to not hear the answers you’re looking for it can feel like there’s nothing there and the panic sets in so that makes it difficult to find quiet again.
I’ve had those moments of clarity where it felt like lightning striking and everything kind of just fell together as it should. I’ve had the moments when I felt the tension leave my body because flow took over and I KNEW there was nothing to worry about, all was on track and exactly as it should be. But I’ve had days when it felt like even opening the door was challenging, where the problems from yesterday were solved but now led to something else that I didn’t see coming. I heard nothing in those moments. I felt alone and confused in those moments. And the truth is there were some of those moments that I never got the answers I was looking for. Some days the noise is loud and we’re inundated with too much information and advice and talk we don’t need and others, even when we’re asking for help there’s just nothing. The silence seems louder than anything as we wait to hear something back. I’ve had to consider in those moments that there just might be something telling us to hold on, to dig deeper, to look at a different side of ourselves to find the answers we seek. Possibly cliché, I know.
We all experience times when we feel we fell short of something. As suggested, introspection is an important part of finding the truth. A few things—we are often far harsher on ourselves than anyone else and we think of ourselves far more often than anyone else. So our opinion and mindset matter most because we spend the most time with ourselves. We’re used to noise internally and externally and it can become addictive to the point where we can’t handle being quiet or slowing down. Silence doesn’t have to be a scary thing. We may not like what we hear but we will always find the truth, especially when we filter out all the noise and unnecessary crap. We know far more than we give ourselves credit for and need to trust that what we intuit and understand is real. Silence can lead to the realization that we are with the wrong group of people or that we are exactly where we need to be. It can show us where we need to grow. It brings out the things we didn’t want to talk about because it has a chance to surface when nothing else is around. Face it and embrace it and block out everything else. To learn more, to get more, to understand more, we need less.
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