I’ve been around many people lately who seem to be contrary simply for the sake of it.  We all know the type—the ones who will tell you the sky is green simply because you said it was blue.  It’s very obviously blue, but since you said it, it has to be something different.  I wish I understood more of human nature to break down what it is that makes some people that way—that may be a project I have to look into coming up.  That type of behavior has been the bane of my existence since childhood.    I’ve attracted people who sought to fight simply because I was right.  That isn’t an egotistical statement, that truly is as simple as an argument over the color of the sky—that was no bullshit example. There is something in some people that seeks to make other people crazy purely for the entertainment of it.  Perhaps that’s my karma as well, to learn when to let stupid things go and to move on. Not everyone has to like us, we don’t always have to be right, and there are some times when certain people will be contrary simply to be that way because it is in their nature to fight for something no matter how stupid.  We can’t change people and there are these types around everywhere.  Is it worth wasting our breath and time trying to convince them what is obviously right is right?  No.

Mel Robbins talks about the concept of letting people be who they are and sometimes, no matter how painful, we have to let people be who they are.  We have to let them dig their own rut as they run the same circle trying to convince people that what they see is right.  Some people like the challenge of making people feel crazy—they like to push buttons for no reason other than they can.  So while they can choose to use their energy in that manner, we can choose to use our energy to fight someone who knows they are being difficult or we can use our energy to happily allow them to be who they are and walk away.  We let those who fight for the sake of fighting carry on with that battle because that isn’t something we need to engage in—and we have a choice on whether or not to engage.  It can be painful to experience a person we thought understood us become a person who simply wants to see a reaction out of us.  There is no convincing those people that anyone else is right about anything because they see us as wrong simply because it IS US.  Let them be that person. 

My friends, there will be days when the sun is shining so brightly, no clouds in the sky and we see that brilliant blue carry on for what seems like endless miles.  Even on those days, there will be people who see our smiles and decide that is enough reason to put a thorn in our sides.  I’ve never met anyone who inspires that in me, who when I see them smile I want to see them suffer so I truly don’t know what that feels like.  I am also a proponent of common sense and truth so it’s hard for me to wrap my brain around the idea of fighting just because we can.  My energy is much better spent elsewhere, and if there is a fight that needs to be fought, I’d rather have the ability to focus on that when the time is right.  I don’t need to waste my time creating fights out of nothing.  I don’t need to waste my time making people understand the truth.  If we find ourselves with that type of crowd around us, it’s time to make the choice on whether or not we have anything worth staying for.  The world has enough obstacles simply in the form of existence—we don’t need to waste our time with any additional created nonsense formed out of someone’s head or misplaced feeling toward us.  So if their sky is green, so be it.  Tell them it’s lovely and walk away.