“The older I get the more I realize how important it is for you to have someone who truly sees your magic.  No jealousy, no competition, just love, support, and good vibes, like, I’ve got you, I see you, I’m rooting for you always,” Daniel Chidiac.  For a long time I thought I needed accolades and recognition for things well done.  I thought I had to achieve it all, that I had to be number one, the best, that I had to do it all.  Life seemed to be all about competition and I was the uber competitive over-achiever. See, it was partially competition that is true.  It’s also a little true that I wanted to be the best.  But the deep seeded truth was that I needed to know someone else saw my worth.  I was trying to find ways to prove my value because I felt like I had to earn my existence.  I had to prove I was worth my salt so to speak.  I thought I had to be liked and accepted by everyone because it seemed those were the ones people listened to, the ones people adored and looked up to.  I never considered how I was playing a role and that wasn’t the real me.  I also never considered it disingenuous because there was always truth in the personas I adopted—I genuinely knew part of what I was saying was from me.  I like to see both sides.  The problem came when I started to origami myself into positions to prove I understood people while others didn’t understand me.

When we are constantly chameleon-ing for others, it might give us a temporary high of acceptance and understanding.  We feel seen but it’s only in that moment.  Eventually we become the other person’s source of validation because they know we will agree with them.  And after a while if people start to see you agreeing with everyone, some credibility starts to go away.  When we start to appease everyone, we start to lose sight of what it is WE really like and what parts are actually us.  Instead of becoming someone else, if we were to accept ourselves the pieces that align with others would link us and the relationship would naturally flow rather than us becoming a source of energy to that person.  Successful relationships are built on mutual trust and understanding and the similarities that bring us together.  That isn’t to say we agree on everything—and that’s also key to maintaining our identity.  It also strengthens who we are to discuss differing sides of things.  But in that is another key: the people who appreciate us will be there even if we aren’t in agreement on everything.  They will support us through the hard times, fully accepting us as we are.  There’s no need for a mask with these people.

It’s amazing what happens when we get the appropriate support in life.  Our cups fill up and we feel complete.  We are able to support others.  We are able to sustain our energy and not feel depleted just from having a conversation with someone about things completely irrelevant to us.  The growth we can achieve as individuals and as a collective through appropriate support and encouragement is limitless.  There doesn’t need to be competition.  We look at this life as something to win and the truth is we all end up in the same place at the end.  No matter how much we win in life, we will not get out of here alive.  It’s a much better use of time and energy to align with those who care, and finding a universal “good” and means for the collective.  We can spend the time we have here making this world a beautiful place.  We can create a beautiful life filled with joy and happiness and when we are all operating at that level, we elevate the vibration of the entire planet.  It starts with one.  One person to see us for who we are and to embrace it.  We see ourselves and love who we are then we know who is for us.  We expand that energy and that is a bond like no other.