“Whatever you’re feeling it will eventually pass.  You won’t be sad forever.  At some point you will feel happy again.  You won’t feel anxious forever.  In time you will feel calm again. You don’t have to fight your feelings or feel guilty for having them.  You just have to accept them and be good to yourself while you ride this out.  Resisting your emotions and shaming yourself will only cause you more pain and you don’t deserve that.  You deserve your own love, acceptance and compassion,”  Lori Deschene.  One of the first steps toward finding our purpose is the complete acceptance of who we are.  Every single one of us is flawed so I set a reminder here that perfection was never and will never be the goal. We will feel it all with the experiences we have, and as I wrote about a few weeks ago, going through it is simply part of the process.  I never said it felt good all the time.  Self-discovery/acceptance is raw and painful.  But it’s also cathartic and healing and transformative. 

We are allowed to feel what we feel but we are not meant to stay that way.  Some of us were taught that we were burdens, that our feelings were too big, that we were irrational for feeling what we did or that we couldn’t trust what we knew in our bodies.  So we need to understand what it is to love ourselves and fill in those gaps we all have.  We have to understand that those gaps aren’t a bad thing—the human experience is varied and deep and beautiful in all it brings.  We have to take it all in so if there is something we perceive as a “bad” thing, we have to ask if there’s a chance to reframe that.  That’s where the ticket is: the reframing. That is where the mind is the most powerful.  For every negative, we can create a positive.  It won’t last forever because this life isn’t forever.  We are here as part of this grand experiment we really don’t know the purpose of so we can stop taking things so seriously.  Have some faith in ourselves and enjoy.  This is a moment—life is one grand moment.  Relish it, appreciate it, love it.  Don’t take it for granted and don’t waste it getting stuck in something that won’t matter in the end.  It’ will all be ok.  It always is.