I talked about safe harbors and doing what we are meant to do—I’ve talked about that a lot but if I’m honest, I feel like I’m missing part of that story.  What happens when we know what we have to do and we know we need to take the steps to do it but somehow we still stop ourselves from doing it?  Self-esteem is the kicker there.  We need to believe we can do it and we need to have the belief that we WILL do it.  I know my fear is that I can’t see something through—like I will be able to start it but I won’t be able to see it through to the end, to make it what it was meant to be.  Essentially I’m afraid of shitting the bed—like starting out really strong and then just falling short.  I heard a TED talk the other day talking about how we psych ourselves up with the enormity of certain tasks and we think we can’t do it because we are essentially trying to eat the whole horse at once.  But if you can make just one gray square, you can replicate it for something bigger.  The example provided was a picture of Brad Pitt being replicated one gray square at a time.  So if it is that easy, what holds us back? 

We all have hang ups.  Self-doubt and limiting beliefs, an unsupportive circle (those who don’t really support us/only take what they can get from us), friends or family question everything we do (or make us question ourselves), past experiences with work/school/work/family etc. that make us believe we are incapable somehow. We are all capable of changing our self-talk and inner dialogue.  At the end of the day we are still animals and how we really feel is visible on some level (energetically or otherwise) to everyone around us.  So if we aren’t fully confident in what we do, people pick up on that and know—and instinct takes over and they will tear us down in some way or another.  I listened to a lecture from one of my business partners and he said that, “Some treat this business like driving a toy car—if we aren’t confident and don’t exude that [confidence] to our network, people can smell that doubt on us.  We aren’t driving a toy car—we are in the Lamborghini—we need to step up.”  The same is true for everything we do in life from knowing what we want to eat in a restaurant and asking for it to starting that business that no one understands or sees the endgame for. 

We know people have opinions on things they know nothing about—we do too.  We need to keep that in perspective because if they don’t know what we are talking about in relation to a goal, or what the experience/purpose is, they have no room to judge what needs to be done to succeed.  What they don’t understand or what they don’t experience will never make sense to them and we can’t make that happen.    The reality is they aren’t even on the fast track to success themselves and likely aren’t even clear on what they want to do with their own lives so it’s easier to judge someone else’s actions.  For our business in particular, they often say “Get to a billion a year in revenue before you start talking about [what we do] because we can say and prove we make a billion a year.  That’s the difference—we walk the walk.”  We also have to accept that it isn’t our job to make people believe in what we do because not everyone is meant to have the same experience as us.  The key is to keep practicing those basics, those first steps because we know they work and eventually will show the whole picture.  We have to trust that sometimes we understand things other people don’t and we must stick with our own path.  Whether in the first day, week, month, or year, if we see that spark, we have to trust that we are in the right place at the right time.  We don’t just have the cookie, we have the whole bakery.