“Stop moving like you’re optional,” unknown.  We need to take the space we need for ourselves.  To be who we are meant to be.  We are constantly told that there isn’t enough room or enough resources for everyone to be who they are—that we need to fit into a mold. We didn’t journey into this world to play small.  We were not designed to shrink ourselves to fit into anything.  It’s amazing that as quickly as things change in this world, as many advances as we have for technology/communication/healthcare, as much as we’ve become accustomed to certain things that would have been inconceivable 50 years ago, that we move as slowly as we do when it comes to accepted norms of living our lives.  Some of the most outlandish ideas regarding thought and free will about who we are, are accepted but we still have this limit on what it takes to survive—the fact that we still think we have to fight for survival is laughable.  We’re focused on the wrong things.  WE let people make us feel useless or like we don’t belong and we still try to fit in instead of creating the space (or even taking the space) we need, the space we were meant to have.  We are all gifted with life and it is up to us to make what we will of it—if someone wants to treat us like we’re a choice, we have to remember we can make ourselves no longer an option.

I’ve written before that the nature of life is to expand.  We are here to create and sometimes to create we have to first break down the walls that stand in the way of what we know—especially if those walls surround our own hearts.  Those can be the hardest walls to break because we believe them about ourselves.  When we understand we are needed, our ideas are needed, and that we don’t need to settle for people who only call us when they need something, or who make us feel we don’t contribute something to their lives, we chip away at whatever reality we were sold and start building what we know.  It isn’t up to others to determine our worth—frankly their opinion is irrelevant.  They never went through what we did, our experiences are totally different.  When we had put ourselves together, survived the worst, and still chose peace, those were the moments that showed what we are made of.  We still seek peace.  We no longer need to get caught up in problems.  In spite of rough days,  remember we’ve beat them all and we will continue to land on our feet.  The fact we are here tells us we are not an option, we have purpose.  We already made the cut so to speak so no one gets to decide if we are supposed to be anywhere or not.  We are needed, our unique purpose is needed.  If we treat ourselves like an option people will make the selection when it suits them.  Feeling optional makes us people please, like if we aren’t chosen we are somehow less valuable.  We have to choose our own lives.   

When we’ve gotten through as much as we have—not only gotten through it, but thrived in spite of it—there is no space to feel like a third wheel in any circumstance.  If people make you feel that way, they aren’t the right ones for you. We don’t have time for the dance that seeks approval.  The body moves to the rhythm of its own accord.  Its own knowing.  When we try to move to the rhythm of someone else, the mind becomes confused and doesn’t know what to do. Soon we stop moving because we can’t hear the rhythm we’re supposed to and we only move when told.  We forget the sound of our own intuition.  We wait to hear the words telling us we are good enough, worthy.  But if we listen to what’s inside, we know what to do—we know our purpose and we never confuse whether or not we belong because we know we do.  Now, the truth is that we don’t belong in every circumstance.  We aren’t meant to be palatable to everyone.  We are meant to stir some people, to move some people, and to work with some people.  The wrong situations will make us question our very existence so it’s our job to make sure we make decisions from the core of our being, not from where people want us to be.  Above all, always remember to choose ourselves.