Add to your reality more elements of what you love.  Last week I shared about how I can’t focus on curating how people receive a message, I need to focus on the message itself.  We will become a master of nothing if we constantly flit from one thing to another with no real focus.  We need to focus on the topic, the area of interest instead of making it appear a certain way.  See, I had a vision of being a specific type of influencer for lack of a better word…  I wanted to appear as a centered, together, guru of sorts who could live as an example of what she shared to help people make their lives better.  I didn’t expect to appeal to ALL, but I wanted lessons applicable to all.  I was looking for some sort of universal acceptance in the truth I delivered because it was supposed to be a universal truth.  When you try to appeal to all, however, you won’t appeal to any because there is a degree of untruth to it.  Falsehood is unintentional, but it is a watered down truth which can appear that we are hiding or missing something. Plus no one has it all together and that image I thought was so noble and easy to portray, frankly, is complete bullshit. It was a façade, an image, literally a job to make people believe something that only half existed.

When we find ways to add more of what we love to our present, however, we suddenly realize that we don’t need to appeal to many—we need to appeal to those who need us.  This isn’t about adapting a message to make it palatable—this is about sharing the message we are meant to share.  Living life in complete authenticity and joy and presence in who we are, not who we want people to think we are.  As soon as we feel we need to appear a certain way, we lose the impact and the point of what we are doing.  There is something profound in sharing our truth and learning new things about our passion areas.  I found facets of things that engage me for long periods of time but I have yet to find those things that keep me engaged 24/7.  I still save my time to do other things for people—like if we want to focus on a house project, that tends to take precedence over my passion projects.  Work projects still come before my personal goals.  If we put our focus on other things, the universe doesn’t understand what we really want.  It can only give us what we focus on and what we put our energy toward—so make sure we are adding more of what we love in to each day. 

Dan Martell says, “If you’re a human, and you have a heartbeat, and know you are meant for more, you know you are here to do something way bigger than what you’re doing right now.  Making that decision is scary because it’s probably going to mean some really tough conversations with people you love in your life, and who you are today is not who you’re going to have to become to achieve that thing. All that is scary, change is scary, I get that.  But if today was your last day, I guarantee most people, 99.7% of the population, would have massive regrets for not starting, creating or doing that thing.”  We have a calling and sometimes that means making hard decisions but nothing is harder than the regret of not doing something we love, knowing we could have.  This is living with eyes wide open, sticking our heads out the window, finding that joy from childhood that we discussed the other day.  We are human and flawed and we have an infinite amount to learn about existence—but we are also born perfectly as we are meant to be, all knowing in our passion and purpose.  The contrast can be confusing—and that is ok.  The more we learn to trust ourselves, the more we remember what we know and we connect with the real purpose of life: to live with joy and purpose—specifically our joy and purpose.