“Pushing through discomfort gives us the belief and the confidence in our word,” Bishoi Khella.  Knowing new people and seeing their success, hearing their stories gives me the confidence to push through my own crap.  Collectively I am surrounded by people who have literally pulled themselves up from the depths of things and who have created lives for themselves.  One of the biggest regrets I have is that I never allowed myself to fall.  I never wanted people to see me at my lowest, I didn’t want them to see me fall because they already thought I was weak and any sign of failure was more than enough for them to pounce on me and make me feel worse about myself.  But the truth is if I had just said fuck it and gone with my instincts, even if it meant falling, I would have learned more about who I was rather than trying to fit all these pieces into my life to create a version of myself that was always a couple sizes too big or small.  We know when things aren’t a good fit, we know when things don’t feel right but we try to convince ourselves that it will work or we buy into our shit and we stop trying.  That lack of follow through creates a story that we can’t do it, that we will never succeed and it gets easier and easier to say no to what we want to do.

But when we push through the discomfort of failure and fear, we learn that we are capable of infinite things.  Our power is limitless as long as we stick with it.  Our decision will take us exactly where we need to be, we just have to stop pretending what we do and don’t want.  We have to get honest with ourselves about what we want and what we have to do to close the gap to get there.  Every time we stop ourselves because of some limiting belief or fear, we tell ourselves it is ok to give up on what we want.  We give ourselves an out to creating the life we’ve been dreaming of.  What message does that send to the universe?  That’s the energy of, “thanks but no thanks, I don’t really want it.”  And then we get upset when we reject what we wanted and it doesn’t come back to us.  We need to learn to trust ourselves, to trust that we can handle our dreams and that what we want is meant for us, that it wants us too.  Discomfort is temporary but regret is permanent.  The fact is we only have so much time on this earth and no one knows how much time that is, and if we can face our fear of failure head on even at the risk of temporary pain/embarrassment etc. then we potentially create the greatest joy in our lives.  And if we do it once, we can do it again and we have the confidence to do it again.  Greatness is on the other side of fear—believe we can get there.