Just a reminder that we don’t always get what we want but we get what we need—with that, we need to accept ourselves as we are, with love and grace, because by the logic we get what we need, it fits that we are already as we are intended to be.  If we accept the premise that we are given what we need at the right time, we need to understand that this is all divinely hatched somehow and that we are a part of it because we are here—if we weren’t part of that overarching plan, we wouldn’t be here.  The universe understands what’s necessary better than we do.  We just have to be able to get out of our own way and accept the cards we are given, and learn to play them successfully instead of lamenting the need for different cards.  We often don’t understand what we would give up if we traded all of those cards in, the moments we would lose for the sake of feeling better immediately.  Clarity and knowledge are big sticking points for me but I use those as tools to create comfort because comfort means I understand what’s happening and why.   

I’ve always been the kind of person who seeks control by knowing the exact course of events and the reason behind them.  I’ve been trained to avoid pain and hurt by knowing what comes next—rather, thinking that knowing what comes next will help us avoid pain.  Life doesn’t always work like that, and we can’t always know what comes next, and we certainly don’t always know the reason.  I’ve struggled with personal space and with relationships with people who don’t really like me but suddenly are present at my home—so maybe it isn’t so much space but boundaries.  I’ve also struggled with waiting for answers on my work and being in limbo in life in general—still figuring out what I want and what it takes to get there.  I feel if we know the reason then we are better able to make decisions, so sitting with that much confusion is incredibly uncomfortable for me.  As frustrating as all of that is, if I believe that we get what we need, then all of these things are here for a reason as well—including the confusion. 

I wanted to use this reminder to encourage all of us to take it a bit easier in the coming days, weeks, months.  The world is a turbulent place right now but I want to remind all of us that when we are the ones to create the turbulence, we are also the ones that can fix it.  We fix it when we learn to accept it and pivot.  We fix it when we understand the tools we need to develop who we are.  We also fix it when we accept that we aren’t here to fix it—rather that we are meant to learn from it and nothing needs to be fixed.  It hurts not getting what we want, especially when it’s something we feel will help us in the long run, when it’s something we not only want but think we need.  There is another saying that necessity is the mother of invention.  So when we are in a point of need, be grateful because we are being pressed to come up with a new solution that works for us.  Finding that solution is part of the plan—it can help so many people. So stop lamenting the cards we have and learn to play them better.  Learn to trust that we have all we need inside of us.  The rest is just fluff, so focus on the good and developing our skills, and what we need continues to find its way to us.  It’s always on time, always perfect.