“Sometimes winning means you have to quit; Sunk cost fallacy is a fallacy.  No matter how much time you have invested in the life and love you have now you are not destined to continue living it if that is the life you are not meant to live in the future.  If the metal around your finger starts to look more like a shackle holding you to the past rather than a circle promising the hope of the future then have the courage to untether yourself.  We cannot get to the life we are meant to live if we are too busy living the life we feel obligated to uphold…never underestimate the power of inertia and its ability to keep you in an unhappy relationship forever in exchange for the comfort of familiarity.  Never forget that he greatest loss you will incur is the loss of time you could have spent finding out that joy lies just on the other side of the comfort you’ve taken…The greatest glory waits for those who are willing to ignore the shame that others want you to feel when you quit what is not for you,” Anna Kai.  Kai discusses this in the context of limiting ourselves based on relationships but this is easily applied to everything in our lives.  It doesn’t matter the type of relationship or if this is about work or continuing on a path we stared and feel we need to finish it simply because we started it—even if it doesn’t feel right any longer.

I invested thousands of dollars in different ventures in my time.  Always trying to find the fastest way to find who I was.  One day I was interested in languages, then massage, then healthcare, then holistic care, then changing everything, then mental health.  Marie Forleo talks about being a multi-passionate entrepreneur.  I used to get frustrated that all of these ventures failed—or that I failed in them.  I thought I would never be able to run a business for myself because I had tried so many things and wasn’t able to manage it successfully.  I realized that all of the things I had been trying to do were part of my personality and I needed to find a way to puzzle them all together.  I wasn’t one thing—I was all of these things.  It didn’t matter what I had been doing before because I had learned lessons in each of the attempts at creating freedom.  I wasn’t tethering myself to a relationship, I was tethered to a belief that I was a failure and destined to carry the weight of someone else’s dream, sacrificing my own dreams.  It was time to let go of the obligation of what I created.

It can be a tricky concept to let go of what we had in order to gain something else—and for those of us who have tried and haven’t gotten the results we were looking for it adds another layer.  Will it work this time?  Do we even know if we really know ourselves?  The comfort we feel sticking with what we know or the guilt we feel for the energy we’ve put into something only to have it not turn out doesn’t mean that we can’t try again—that we can’t find what works for us.  It may take a different route but once we cut the weight of what was holding us back we are able to fly exactly where we need to be.  Sometimes we have to get to higher ground to get our bearings—the climb is worth it.  Forget what others think about our circumstances—we are responsible for living our lives, not living them for someone else.  People will always have something to say.  They will always feel a certain way.  Do what is right for us anyway.