“Doubt is a killer.  You just have to know who you are and what you stand for,” Jennifer Lopez.  In the concept of going for it and pulling the trigger, it makes it far easier if we know who we are and what we stand for.  When the opportunities arise that align with those values and that identity, it makes it easier to take the shot.  When we doubt who we are or our capability, it’s easy to convince ourselves that we can’t do it.  Doubt stops more people than actual circumstances do.  And the more we deny ourselves the opportunity to try things, the more comfortable we become with not doing.  It becomes easier and easier to convince ourselves that it’s safer to just not go for it, that it wouldn’t work for us, or worse, that it wasn’t meant for us. No one is perfect out of the gate.  Not to say that innate talent doesn’t exist—it really does—but even that talent needs to be honed and developed.  So we need to get ourselves to the point of having enough confidence to take that first step.

Doubt and fear kill more dreams than closed doors.  Impatience, people pleasing, and perfectionism are all part of that too—cousins, close seconds, I’m not sure, but they all prevent us from moving forward and contribute to keeping us right where we are.  And here’s the thing: as much as we believe that we are playing it safe, sometimes the very thing we think is keeping us “secure” is the very thing strangling us.  We build our homes and our lives around a concept of security, still trying to buy into a mentality of decades ago.  And we know that isn’t the reality any longer—so if we don’t know who we really are, it’s easy to let the world fill in the blanks.  That’s when we start missing our shot, that’s when we feel the so-called safety promised by others is safe instead of building our own foundation. The only person we have with us our entire lives is ourselves—so that is the standard we need to live by.  What is our strength?  What can we bring to the world?  How can we do good by being who we are instead of assuming a role in a machine that would spit us out anyway? 

Identity isn’t about deciding on something and trying to fit the mold.  Identity is innate and something we simply accept.  It’s when things feel right, like they fit.  I won’t say that we can’t change who we are because it’s always possible, but the successful change comes down to the things that FEEL right.  Identity is about wearing what fits.  It’s easy to know who we are when it feels right, when the outside matches the inside—then we know the steps.  When dealing with doubt we need to remind ourselves that it’s only us who stop progression.  While that can be a comforting feeling because that means we can always change the narrative, it’s also a sobering feeling because anything we’ve wanted to do becomes fully our responsibility.  And that’s a good thing.  This isn’t about being perfect, it’s about doing what is perfect for us.  And even if something feels right, it can still take some time to break it in to the point it becomes natural.  Some level of self-doubt is natural because from a survival stand point we have to make sure we don’t end up dead when we try something.  But we are meant to squash that voice that tells us we aren’t able.  Break that self-imposed barrier and be who we are meant to be—give ourselves and the world no doubt about who we are.

“I learned a long time ago that there is something worse than missing the goal and that’s not pulling the trigger,” Mia Hamm.  Wasting time waiting for the right moment rather than spending time learning to perfect our aim.  I know there are some people out there who don’t understand that feeling—when you really want something but it never feels quite right to go for it.  The bold ones who never let anything hold them back.  But there are those who struggle with even knowing who they are let alone what they want, and even if they do know what they want, there are things inside of them they let hold them back. But if we don’t go for it then there is no chance of it ever happening.  So we learn to go again.  We learn to take what happened the first time and shift it for what happens the next time.  When we don’t even try there is the loss of the opportunity.  When we build momentum and take that initial shot, we create space to try again, to learn more and come back and make it right.  Not pulling the trigger keeps us exactly where we are.

I was one of those “try” people for a long time.  Now, don’t get me wrong, there is value in trying—it’s why we sample things, why we dip our toes.  But trying really doesn’t get us anywhere.  It keeps us on the edge checking the conditions rather than jumping in and learning to swim.  I’ve tried a million things—I was a professional try-er. And it was fun!  There was always the thrill of something new, the moment where I felt like “this is it!” followed by the inevitable crash.  I was really good at starting things.  I was even pretty good at planning things.  Not so good at executing them.  I became even better at finding a way to not commit because the next thing sounded better.  Trying has its purpose in that it really can show us different experiences that may work for us.  But if we are stuck in trying and not doing then we end up not learning anything of any depth—we never move beyond the practice field.  Or, better yet in the case of ADD, we are constantly changing the target so we never learn how to hit the goal.  In some cases, even with rapidly changing the target, at least we are building skill, but if we never go for it, then we never learn.

I know a lot about regret for a variety of reasons.  Spending too much time on the wrong things, not spending enough time on the right things, not taking time to find my “thing.”  The biggest regret we all have is wasted time and not using our time to our advantage.  I hate the saying that we all have the same hours because that isn’t true.  First of all, we don’t even all have the same time—we never know when our time is up, so automatically all we can do is our best.  But as far as our day to day, we don’t have the same hours because our hours are all allocated differently and for different reasons—we can’t compare one person to another because there is always something that we don’t know about.  And I’m learning as I get older just how arbitrary time is.  It’s a man-made construct in order to keep us on some semblance of social graces—but the time of nature is what we are all made of.  So when the feeling strikes us, that is when we need to act and pull the trigger.  We are the only ones who know when that time is.  Don’t let it pass us by.  It can be a scary thing to pull the trigger but it’s even scarier to think about what happens if we don’t—if we miss we can try again, if we don’t go for it, time moves on.        

This morning I saw the story of a woman, a former radio engineer, who fell ill and nearly died while being treated.  Upon her release from the hospital she returned to the store where she constantly dropped off treats and goodies and the story expanded to how she had done this for other organizations, offices, and businesses as well and these places all shared how this woman was the one who took care of them.  She was always uniquely herself and sharing what she could with the world.  She said that when you judge others you miss the good stuff and she simply is herself.  She is her own person, allowing life to unfold as it should and she is changing lives one cookie at a time as her daughter says.  I spent so much of my life believing that in order to have any real impact, it was about quantity—how many people I could reach, how much I put out there, how much I received, how much work I did.  I forgot the impact of the pebble in the pond and sought to be the one who scooped up the entire pond. 

We don’t always hear the stories of the ones who initiate the spark, but they are just as responsible as those carrying the torch.  This story demonstrates the importance of knowing ourselves so well that we do what we must no matter how insignificant it may seem to others.  Small acts add up and they really do have an impact.  We may not be meant to impact every person we meet, but the people we do impact will potentially get enough to be of some impact to others as well.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a cookie or a word or a shoulder or just helping someone pick up—all of those things make a difference.  With the losses I’ve faced lately, I can tell you the seemingly little things have absolutely had a huge impact on my life, and the weight of them being gone is profound.  Sometimes all it takes is a steady heartbeat with us, a presence, someone willing to listen, a shared meal.  As someone who spent a lot of time pushing through and thinking those things weren’t necessary, I can tell you they are.

The passion we feel for things, especially the passion we can’t explain, is what guides us.  I’ve let the chaos run wild for too long and I love stories like this because there is steadiness in trusting who we are.  That is the solid ground we come back to: the essence of who we are.  I spent too much time trying to stop chaos and loss when I should have been working on stabilizing myself and centering myself in who I am.  It doesn’t matter what other people think, we will have the impact on the right ones and the right people will be brought into our lives.  The only thing we need to be is ourselves because that is what gives us the power to get through whatever this universe throws at us, it helps us learn the lessons, it helps us determine what is next because, as I spoke about the other day, we are never really “there.”  There is no “there.”  All we have is this time, this journey and we aren’t meant to be anyone else but ourselves. 

Today I am grateful for nudges.  I wanted to take a break from believing in signs for a while because I feel I spent a slew of time misinterpreting what was meant for me.  The things I was excited about and wanted to do never really came to fruition and I felt jilted because I didn’t want to do the things I was less passionate about.  It seemed the doors were often closed to the things I felt genuine passion about.  It took a lot of effort to keep the door open to the things I liked doing and it often seemed that the things I didn’t want to do were wide open.  On some level I still believe there are hints from the universe that I’m on the right path.  Maybe I shouldn’t be so quick to put my spin on it and learn to stay present until I feel compelled to move—or maybe I need to learn to jump on the moment even if I’m not entirely confident.  There are still things the universe shows me and I’m working on trusting them again. 

Today I am grateful for inspiration.  This follows nudges because the nudges in this case referred to a specific dream I have.  My ADD has made it really challenging to complete any of my goals and I recently made the decision to slow down and focus on one thing at a time—it’s been so hard to not feel like I’m falling behind in other areas.  But I recently saw that three of the people I follow regularly are publishing books again.  It was the clear indicator that at this time in my life, I need to focus on my writing.  I had bene so preoccupied with generating income that I let the more creative side, the urges, fall to the wayside because I have a potentially lucrative business forming.  Each endeavor has benefits and amazing potential to be honest, but I can’t do both at once.  Right now the writing is calling to me, sharing my message keeps repeating in my mind.  And to see all of these people putting out multiple books and repeating their success is a great reminder that I am in good company and need to be honest about what dream I want realized first.  This is where I’m at now and I am following the inspiration. 

Today I am grateful for the life I have been gifted.  It’s our 23^rd anniversary and after the year we’ve had, I wasn’t even sure we’d be together.  I can’t say that all we’ve done is bad because I’ve seen in the last few months how it was all a comedy of errors of sorts—we both thought the other wanted something and we acted as if that was the case instead of speaking with the person to identify what the other really wanted.  We each took each other for granted in certain aspects.  We’ve endured and we’ve grown.  And we are still here.  It isn’t perfect, we are still trying to get our bearings, get our feet under us. And no matter the pain we’ve been through in the last year, I can’t say I’m not grateful we’ve made it this far.  No relationship is perfect, and we have a lot to work through on both of our parts, but I am grateful we’ve built this life together and I’m grateful we are learning these lessons together because we are still safe enough with each other to learn who we are all over again.  It’s a scary feeling but I appreciate coming to clarity together and doing the work together.  I can’t believe that someone would simply stay together for 23 years for no reason other than personal gain—neither of us were giving that much.  But now we can acknowledge where we were, be grateful for what we’ve done, and get honest about where we want to go.  We can work on actually building a dream together.  I’m grateful to have this life with him because it’s still teaching me to this day. 

Today I’m grateful to learn.  I prided myself on my intelligence for years. It was my staple throughout my entire childhood—I could remember and recite most any bit of information you gave me and I could put it into context so it was clear I really understood my stuff.  I never looked at how it was a defense mechanism.  I also never looked at how that inhibited me from learning.  If we think we already know it all then there isn’t anything left to learn and we close ourselves off.  There were lessons about myself that I really didn’t want to admit I needed to learn.  Things I didn’t want to address head on or believe about myself.  But I knew that in order to successfully move forward, I would have to drop what I thought and learn all over again.  Learning was always a fun process for me, going into the depths of what needed to change in my life could be viewed the same way.  The more we learn the better we can be at expressing ourselves, at serving our purpose, and understanding others.  I am grateful to learn where I can improve and where I can serve.  I am grateful to let down the defense and be open to learning what I need to.

Today I am grateful for persistence.  If it wasn’t for stubborn persistence I’m not sure I would still be going right now.  Look, I’m fully aware of all the advantages I have—I have a comfortable home, a family, friends, a secure (ish) job, additional work that can help my family, I have free time to do things I enjoy, and I have choices.  We are all in different circumstances and we are all different people so, based on our experiences, we all react a different way.  It took me decades to learn that there was a degree of safety in full expression of self.  Call it ego or stubbornness (maybe both at times) I would have given up.  There was so much in me that knew from day one that I was not meant to carry someone else’s yoke—I was the one to free people from it.  We didn’t like what we were doing and it bothered me that we blindly kept doing it so I talked about the issues.  I talked myself in circles and then I learned the lesson in trying v. doing.  And getting honest about what I’m really doing and if that is enough.  But most of this life comes down to the fact that we just keep going.  Keep going.  We never know what comes next, so we keep going. 

Wishing everyone a wonderful week ahead.

“It’s the fear of the unknown that cripples every step we take,” Tyler Joseph.  I think this is part of the problem when it comes to us searching for power.  We don’t know what comes next and our primal brains are still trained that the unknown is dangerous—and it can be on some levels if we enter into something we don’t know enough about-so we want to exert as much control as we can to keep ourselves safe.  We feel it will help us avoid pain, and pain/discomfort have become the new indicator of survival.  Like, our physical being used to be threatened and now a threat to ego or to our comfort is seen as a threat to survival.  We need to know how people feel and what they will do in our lives.  Will they leave us?  Will they be a good partner?  How can we know who will stay forever?  Will we be able to maintain what we envision?  Are we on the right path? 

We are meant to be creative and social beings but we’ve been pitted against each other in a weird competition, thinking there is only so much for everyone.  But we have the capacity to create the life we want and the universe provides the means to do just that because when we create what we are meant to, we share that with the world. Not many of us are trained in how to follow those instincts and bring those ideas to fruition so when we see others doing it or when we manage to do it ourselves, we inspire others to step forward in their light.  Creating what we think we see and living it are two different things because we have to go against the training, against the grain of what we have been taught and forge our own way.  Not seeing the way to go, especially on an unknown path brings up all sorts of fears. Becoming what we feel instead of what we’ve known brings up fears as well.  Shedding what we were and stepping into a new skin takes time because we have indoctrinated that in our lives.  We have to work our way into feeling secure on our path—into trusting.

As contradictory as it sounds, we have to learn that we can trust the unknown because it is known on some level.  We’ve been taught that following the same path as everyone else is safe and we can do it but that conventional way isn’t meant for everyone.  OUR way is what’s meant for us and that path was laid out well in advance of us being here.  All we need to do is take the first step because once we do, there is no stopping it.  It’s inevitable, destined.  We can trust that we will get where we are meant to be even if we don’t know where “there” is.  We will know when we get there.  I just finished Michael J. Fox’s book Always Looking Up and he references this in the end—we often look for the destination, but when we get to that destination there is always the next one.  So we are never really “there” anyway.  We can be content with where we are and take the appropriate steps when they present themselves because we don’t have to fear the unknown—we can trust we received the instinct for a reason.  Take the step.        

A brief discussion on personal power and power sharing—the obsession with power and how all of our fallouts have come down to power and wanting to control people and outcomes.  Myliek Packett discusses her perspective on how power has shifted our views, beliefs, and actions in this world and all of those things, the search for power has created nearly all of our issues.  I thought this was a good follow up to our discussion on being made mean by our circumstances yesterday in that we are made mean when we all ow others to influence how we feel about ourselves.  When we give in to their opinions and beliefs about who we are and what we are supposed to do, we abandon who we are and then we seek ways to fill the voids we are missing, including seeking power.  In short, the desire for power in our own lives, even the desire to reclaim our power, is part of what makes us mean.  When we get mean and jaded we seek power in other places.

Power is something we’ve gone over a lot as well: we feel the most power when we are fully honest with who we are and we allow others to be who they are.  We understand that we attract what we need and what matters by being exactly who we are meant to be—and that’s far easier than trying to make the world bend to who we are.  In Packett’s discussion, we also understand that sharing power and encouraging power in others, we ignite and increase the power faster than giving our power to someone else or exerting power over them.  We help each other achieve through understanding that all success helps others succeed.  The expansion of it helps others grow and growth is good for all of us.  It’s safer to share power than to hoard it because when power gets out of control it hurts us all.  We are in full control of our emotions.  We can’t let the rawness of what happened change who we are—we need to keep perspective.  We are meant to lighten the load for each other, not hurt each other, and if the goal is growth and improvement, we do that better together.           

“I was tame, I was gentle ‘til the circus life made me mean,” Taylor Swift.  I’ve NEVER been a “Swiftie”—I’m still not, but I will say there are a few lines in her work that have resonated with me lately.  In the spirit of continuing this discussion on pain, honest growth, and leaving space for the good to enter, I have really looked at my role here.  Asked what kind of light I am, what is the purpose of all this, and ow I want to contribute moving forward.  And I’ve seen the pain the systems have caused in my life, my family’s life, and the lives of my friends/the people I know.  Pain and grief touch us all, but it doesn’t need to be grief caused by each other.  I see the result of years of trying to find acceptance instead of working on accepting myself and I see the same in others.  I remember the open heart before all the crap happened.  There are these moments in our lives when we feel a fundamental shift toward a new clarity and we see everything that brough us to where we are, to how we are.  We were a certain way, we felt or believed a certain way until this one thing.

We can decide to understand that this has happened to all of us.  Even if the circumstances differ, we know we are not unique in that turning point.  No one wants to experience that and no one should have to but it will take a long time to consciously stop that behavior.  It will take a collective shift in purpose.  I think the thing that struck me from this line of Taylor’s was the “circus life.”  All of this life is a performance.  We think we need to be seen a certain way and that we need to act a certain way and we end up spending more time manipulating people and controlling their perception (or trying to control it) than we do managing our own energy and creating what we want.  When we create what we want we start emitting the energy of what we want rather than forcing people to bend to it, we automatically attract what it is we were working toward.  Maintaining our authentic self through all of the outside interference clears all that up and we never have to be mean, we never allow the outside to change who we are.

This world is about maintaining the strength that comes with being who we really are.  I will repeat it as often as necessary: not about maintaining power over others, but the power we have in who we are and not allowing outside influence to sway us from doing what is right or from fulfilling our purpose.  We have to be strong in who we are in order to not let the outside influence who we are.  Don’t let what happens and the actions of others make us mean or anything further from who we are.  Be calm.  Be tame.  Allow people to be who they are and that means allowing them to come and go as necessary.  Not everyone is meant to be with us forever.  We are the only ones who will be with us from the beginning to the end.  We all have lessons to learn but we don’t have to make them alter our course if we are already on the right path—and only we can know that.  Find what we connect with, what resonates, what feels right.  Take what we know and appreciate the time we have while we are here, make the most of it—don’t let it make us mean.  Don’t let it pass, don’t let the pain change who we are.  Be present and love what we have while we are here and leave that light behind. 

“Every 100 years there are all new people on this planet,” Anne Lamott.  In the perspective of time and courage and what we do with our time, there is no point in holding back.  We are here so briefly and we are given thought, feeling, and inspiration and those things together give us our purpose.  We are in this together during this time for a reason, to help foster growth and creativity and to shift the energy. We need to celebrate who we are and have patience and love for those around us.  Allow everyone to be themselves and shine their light: stop searching for power, and learn to share the light that ignites the power in others.  The other side to this is that every 100 years there are all new people on this planet so there is no reason to not live fully and do exactly what we are meant to do, to be who we are meant to be—time is precious and short.  I woke up and realized that over 8 months have passed in this year already and I literally have no clue how I got here.  I’ve been working every day, I’ve been taking care of my family, and all of a sudden we are entering the last third of the year. That would happen regardless but the question becomes what did we do with that time?

We can’t change time, it moves forward no matter what we do no matter how hard we wish to change it.  But we can make better decisions with our time while we are here.  We can understand that the rules of nature are finite but the rules of man are not.  We are meant to change the rules and, as I’m getting older, I’m starting to wonder what value the rules really have.  I’m not saying that we should operate in moral decency at all times, but the question of what is moral changes.  We used to kill people for perceived disloyalty to the crown, to their teams, to their family, for perceived snubs.  We would cause physical harm to those just trying to survive and we would harm others for interfering with our perceived survival.  We put material over the person and protected systems over people—who says that’s right? We have created arbitrary rules of success and what people should make their lives like and then put systems in place that make it nearly impossible to achieve that so they feel like they have no other choice.  That’s setting people up to fail.

So our purpose while we are here is to make things brighter, easier, and better for those around us and for those to come.  Make no mistake we have made fantastic progress technologically but we are lacking spiritually and understanding what purpose we really have.  We are making some strides in the effort toward equality but even that feels more like a trap in regards to managing feelings and opinion over what reality is.  I talk about honoring feelings but this is just as dangerous as ignoring everyone’s needs because we allow perception to win instead of reality.  We are born with this team in this time and we have a purpose.  We are ever moving closer to that purpose and we are making changes, but we can only get there if we fully release our hold on what we know (and this may seem contradictory to what I just said) and go with what we feel.  I’m not talking about letting feelings run rampant and going on whim, I’m talking about a deep connection with our soul, our purpose, and acting from there.  There is no need to complicate our time here either with fear of how we look or with forcing ourselves and others to fit in a box.  Break the damn box and work on connecting with humanity.  Imagine what the world will look 100 years from now—let our absence create the space for love to create something good, to foster new growth like I talked about yesterday.  We can leave this better than we found it—that is our purpose.          

“Perhaps this next stage has more to do with who and what you’re choosing to grow with rather than who and what you’re letting go of,” via WildWomanRising.  When we focus on what we are losing, all we see is the absence of what was there.  This is what it means when it’s said we have to choose our thoughts, our focus carefully because we attract what we think of.  While the pain may be real, if all we can see is what ISN’T there, then we don’t see what IS there.  There is no room for something else to enter when we are holding the absence at attention.  The weight of looking at what’s coming when you can’t see it definitely challenges the psyche.  When we lose something, we are keenly aware of something that existed and is no longer there.  It’s harder to imagine something that never existed.  I’m learning that it isn’t necessarily about seeing something specific entering in place of a loss, it’s about creating the space for something new and letting the universe fill it in how it intended. 

Growth doesn’t always happen with a specific intention—sometimes all growing means is exposing more to the light and allowing whatever IS, to be.  While we have no control over the outcome, we can set the stage, the conditions, and focus on what we want to grow.  We can put that energy toward what we want rather than what we don’t want or what we don’t have.  It changes the direction we go.  It’s the difference between heading toward the light and fixating on the dark.  This is the realm of navigating by feeling, learning about honoring who we are, and following intuition.  Keeping hope, especially in the middle of loss, is a great challenge because we are naturally emotionally attached to what it is we are losing.  We do have the power to choose to feel appreciation for the fact that we had whatever it was we lost, and we can acknowledge that we aren’t able to change that it’s gone.  From there we can choose what we want to bring in/attract in its place.

None of this means that we didn’t have love and appreciation for what was there.  It doesn’t mean that we didn’t learn lessons from it.  It doesn’t mean that we aren’t sad that it’s gone.  It just means that we have to learn to do things differently without it.  The pain is real, but it’s an opportunity to see what really matters and start to simplify all of the other nonsense in our lives.  Let go of what isn’t important, realize what we need, focus on that.  Even the things we love can be a distraction if we covet it.  We are meant to operate freely.  Siddhartha talks about the raft—and I know I’ve shared this in my work before. Even if we spend time building it, even if it helped us along the way, we have to let it go when it has served it’s purpose, otherwise we are carrying a burden that holds us back rather than something that helps us move forward.  Show gratitude and lovingly allow ourselves to move on.  I’d be lying if I said it got easier—the hurt is the same whether it’s the first or the hundredth time experiencing that loss.  But it gets easier to understand.  Love, and allow the light to enter the space created in the absence of what once was.  Light fosters new growth, and soon, while there is no replacement, new life forms.  We find home in our hearts as we carry that love with us, we appreciate the life we had, and we see it’s all in us no matter if it’s here physically or not.  It can never really leave us.              

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage,” Lao Tzu.  I’ve spoken often about love.  What it feels like, what it does to us, what we would be willing to do for it.  I never really considered what seeking love does for us from the perspective of living and purpose.  God, I have so much to learn still.  How can I share this if there are still facets that I’m learning myself?  If I hold it too close will the good things still grow? (Beaches).  Sometimes we don’t know what we have in the way of love until it’s gone.  And love comes in so many different forms.  The friend texting to check on us or sending us memes that we related to.  The phone call from our significant other just to say hi.  The cook book your mother picks up because she knows you like a certain kind of food.  The extra long hug from your dad.  The zoom calls with your siblings to check in.  All of the ways this shows love boils down to connection.  The more connected we are with people, the deeper we feel the resonance.  There are things we do for those we love that we don’t do so easily for others and there are things we can do when we know we have the support of others that we wouldn’t do on our own.

When we look at love objectively, without romance, it’s a vibration and an energy of understanding.  The more we understand the more tolerance we have for humanity and trying new things—so we have tolerance for others and ourselves.  We see that the world doesn’t always operate in certainties and we accept it rather than try to change it.  This means that while we know we can’t change what happens around us or what other people do, we know that we can change ourselves and it takes courage to operate outside of the social norm.  It takes courage to decide who we are and to stand in that identity—and it takes as much courage to decide that what we’ve done isn’t working any longer.  Love is all around—the very essence of nature is love.  We are provided for in every way.  We’ve done some pretty cool stuff over time and worked with nature and physics to make life a bit easier, but at its core, we know that nature will take care of us just as it is.  All of the rules we put on life are for purposes man created.  That is the nature of the universe.  When we love we understand that more. 

We see that the universe is all inclusive—we are all here at this time for a reason and it truly doesn’t have anything to do with power or control.  It has to do with creating a resonance that raises the light of this entire planet.  When we feel love and when we receive love we are open to the idea that there is more than enough for everyone—competition isn’t necessary neither is consumerism at the degree we see it today to the point where we monetize these systems and we are more apt to protect how that system operates rather than the people behind it.  We see that there are infinite possibilities and that it’s more important o form those connections than it is to control others.  We all do better when we do better and love guides us down that path.  We need love to help show us what is really important, to create that connection, to create that understanding, to raise the collective vibration.  Love isn’t meant to be choked.  It isn’t meant to hurt.  It is meant to bring us out of our comfort zone and to each other.  So to my earlier question about how can I share this if I’m still struggling to learn this…we all keep trying to learn and be who we are meant to be, and we share as we learn.