“The reality you experience depends on the decisions you’re making in every moment.  So to change your reality you need to get better at deciding and doing not planning and dreaming.  Stop waiting for life to happen to you.  You are an infinite creator.  There is nothing you need to seek nothing you need to wait for.  No one to anoint you with the power you think you need. You already have it.  You’re always creating your reality from the expansive now.  Stop seeking a future that will never come.  All that exists is this moment.  The choice is yours. What do you want to create?” Via Rea Earth.  This is an amazing follow up to our discussion on presence from Richard the other day—our lives are the culmination of our thoughts and actions based on the decisions we make.  No one’s reality is the same, not even those who are experiencing and present for the same thing.  How we feel about the circumstance determines how we react and often our bodies will make that decision for us. 

It has taken me a long time to understand the complexity in the simplicity of that statement and to understand how hard it really was for me—and why I hated it so much.  For something that in fact IS that simple, it is not easy.  The notion that we can control our thoughts was always an abstract idea for me.  My thoughts always felt beyond my control, like they just flowed in as they wanted to and I had no choice but to take the ride—often angry and emotional.  I never thought that a thought was something I could select.  The first notion of that concept (outside of controlling the mind in general) was from Liz Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love.  While frustrated that her thoughts are rampant during meditation, her friend tells her to choose her thoughts like she chooses her clothes—and it gave me a new question: Can we choose our thoughts like that?  It wasn’t a matter of telling myself this is what I had to do, it was a question of if it was even possible.  I hadn’t considered a thought could be a decision.

We spend a lot of our time accepting the idea that our reality needs to be based off of decisions we made when we were 18.  We also accept the idea that we are unable to change our reality without a lot of effort and struggle.  I still struggle with the idea that shifting everything can be as simple as shifting a choice.  The point we need to really focus on is the second and third lines of the quote: to change your reality you need to get better at deciding and doing not planning and dreaming—Stop waiting for life to happen to you.  The most insidious lie we are told is that we have limited options, rather that we all only have the same options when we all feel a different calling.  We are taught to ignore the very instincts that we are born with, insinuating we are wrong from the time we arrive here.  We are taught and groomed to think and behave a certain way and it can be hard to break free of that.

Hearing the clip from Rea Earth reminded me very clearly that we have a say in this existence, in fact, we are responsible for it.  Sometimes the world is simply waiting for us to decide and take actions in the direction of that decision.  It isn’t a matter of permission—it’s a matter of giving ourselves permission to receive.  And receive is a verb—I spoke about that while back.  It doesn’t mean having a package neatly delivered in our laps and then we keep it locked up.  No.  To Receive means to take that gift and apply all the magic we have to it, to use it, to develop it, to share it.  We can create an unbelievable reality with following that vision of the thing that calls to us.  We won’t find that following the same patter we were told to follow or even doing the same thing every day.  Sometimes we have to make a different choice and we open up the doors to a different possibility.