Ed Mylett; what would you do if you knew you had one more week left?  Mylett was interviewed by Lewis Howes and he discussed seeing Kobe Bryant the week before he died and how he thought about what he would prioritize in his life if he knew he had such limited time left—here are some brief points: “Hug those you love, spend more time with those you love.  Get it (the relationship) right.  Whoever matters to you make it right.  You have one day left?  When we begin to think of our lives that way we realize the power of one more moment, one more minute.  Why would we spend that minute in history.  We think that everyone else is going to die.  They think that they will get around to getting happy, they keep their lives in the distance until there are no more days,”.  We are so accustomed to complaining about our lives, acting like we have no say in how we spend our time, living in distraction, that we think happiness is some future goal we can attain.  We lose the concept and sight of the fact that all we have is now and that happiness is something we emanate, a state of being, not something we achieve or that can be taken away from us. 

The truth of the matter is that we never know how much time is left and our time will eventually run out. There are no exceptions to this rule.  With that in mind, why would we ever feel we can or should postpone our happiness?  Why would we ever feel we could or should postpone anything?  The game we play is either buying into this altruistic sense of sacrifice/martyrdom or allowing ourselves to drown in self-indulgence on some level.  Time is the most precious thing and we have total control over how we spend that time.  It doesn’t matter how much we have, we need to understand that we are all capable of doing our best with that time.  I see how quickly time goes, how fast my son is growing up, and I know that I still haven’t gotten to the point I want to be at so I am free to be with him how I want to be.  How much longer do I have to waste waiting for someone else to make a decision for me on how I spend my time, on giving me permission to be with those I love?  I don’t want to find out.  I want to create the most I can with the time I have, I want to live my life exactly how I want to—and it’s terrifying because there are no guarantees on anything.  The only thing guaranteed is that if we don’t go for what we want, we will NEVER get it.

So the things that don’t work for me anymore, as uncomfortable as it is thinking of the worst case scenario, I know it is far better off to let that go rather than sit and hope it turns into something it isn’t.  Even if I see the possibility, time is too short to gamble on a possibility.  There comes a point when we have to know to walk away.  There comes a point when we have to know to go all in.  We will never see the outcome 100% or know with that degree of certainty how things will turn out.  We aren’t meant to.  We are meant to trust our instincts and know that everything is turning out exactly how it is meant to.  We are meant to understand that our relationships are more valuable than our bank accounts and that those of us blessed with good fortune can help others to get on their feet as well.  We are meant to know that we are capable of doing anything and that we are all worthy.  We are meant to find our purpose and share it, not judge and create a hierarchy of worth and power based on material things.  Time goes quickly and we never know when that final moment will be so don’t postpone our lives hoping for something more.  Spend our time creating what we can to the best of our ability and spending time in presence.  Get it right.