You cannot be where you will not go.  I’m not sure where I heard this so apologies, no infringement is intended.  The simplest definition is that if we don’t do the work, we will not get where we want to go.  If we are unwilling to do what it takes, to follow the steps to get somewhere or achieve something specific, then we will never see it to fruition.  We have to do what we say we will if we are to move forward.  We can’t wish in one hand and expect the results to show.  We have to wish, align, do the work, and allow it to come to be.  This isn’t to say change is easy, but if we aren’t seeing results, we need to look at our own actions.

I’ve felt a disconnect lately, like the inside doesn’t match the outside.  There are days I tell myself how powerful I am, that I’m in control and I got this.  I FEEL successful, I FEEL powerful–but I too quickly fall back into my patterns of losing confidence.  I got frustrated the other day because I really looked at my body and saw myself as a mess and realized that isn’t how I feel or how I want to portray myself at all.  My mind has all of these goals and ambitions, I see myself as this healthy version doing what I say I will but that isn’t happening.  Like out of habit, I still drink when I’m with friends, or I have a diet soda—and I had completely stopped those things for a while.  It hit me, though: as much as I am frustrated with how I look and feel—because mentally I am ready to go but physically I can’t seem to get myself there–I can’t be mad at my body.  1. I did it to myself.  The decisions I’ve made and the habits I have got me here.  This wasn’t something that happened overnight.  2. My body, no matter how I feel about its appearance, got me here.  I breathe, my heart beats, my brain still creates, I move—those are major things to be grateful for.  As long as I can do those things, I can fix the rest.  I know I can’t and don’t want to keep operating as I have been—so I have to stop doing what I’m doing and live the life how I would operate as that version of myself.

So the truth about not getting where you will not go is as simple as this: we have to do what we say we will.  If we don’t feel it, if we aren’t aligned with it, if our actions don’t match the words or the feelings—and yes, if the outside doesn’t match the inside—we need to make some changes.  Sometimes our challenges are harder than others but the truth is change is never easy.  If something isn’t working then we have to do something different.  It isn’t a punishment or anything designed to make us feel bad, it’s a guidance system.  If it doesn’t feel right then we know we’ve gotten off course.  So take stock, take a look at where we are at, and address the areas that aren’t working or aren’t what this new version would do.  It starts with small steps: the other night at dinner I didn’t order a soda.  I ordered a lemonade.  Yes, still sugary, but it was a step away from something I know hurts my brain.  I made smoothies the other day and I literally felt total clarity that I have to be that person, making better decisions and following through.  Success is a decision.  If I want to get there, I need to do what it takes to get there, in all the small ways.  We all do.