“A child will look anyone in the eye and say, ‘This game is no longer fun,’ and simply stop playing it.  Without hesitation, without guilt.  And we all should still be doing the same thing.  With bad lovers, bad friends, bad jobs, with the hate we have for ourselves,” Erin Van Vuren.  I always felt guilt at stopping things I didn’t want to do because I didn’t know how it would impact others.  What if they were having a good time?  I didn’t want to be the party pooper.  What if I was the only one who had an issue with it?  I would learn to like it at some point (most times it didn’t happen).  How different would our lives be if we simply stopped engaging with what doesn’t work for us?   What if we maintained our boundaries and the clarity we feel about what we want without shame or hesitation?  Our lives would look a lot more aligned and we’d see a lot more genuinely happy people.  I think we’d know what real happiness feels like.  So often we ignore what we feel and we try to logic/control our way out of it.  We assume we will eventually feel better or be able to tolerate it.  But the truth is we are designed to be discerning creatures and we do feel when something is right for us and when it isn’t . 

Instead of spending our time wishing for things to become something they aren’t, when we clearly communicate what we do and do not like, we can influence the space around us or we learn that we need to move on.  I personally think of the time saved through being honest.  Instead of worrying that we may offend someone, think of how we may be able to come to a better resolution when we tell each other the truth, something that works well for all involved.  It’s amazing how in these conversations amongst children, they are rarely offended.  They may be upset and frustrated if they really wanted to play and someone told them they didn’t want to, but they eventually move on and come to a compromise.  We’ve spent so much time losing our ability to compromise because we give away our power on a daily basis, and that’s where it becomes about ego.  We give away our power to a system, turning over hard-earned money for the things we are told to want, so we expect things to go a certain way in return.  When they don’t we become insulted and angry instead of understanding that there are better ways to control our lives—or even that it was control we were looking for in the first place.  I think taking the time to understand those depths would open the door to understanding that we weren’t familiar with our emotions and we let them get out of control because we applied them to ego.      

I think the world would become a much more cooperative place if we continued the practice of honesty with our feelings.  We’d better understand and practice the idea that there is room for each of us to create and live the life we want.  We can operate peacefully and still have different ideas.  In fact, we’d learn to make those ideas beneficial for everyone.  We’d learn to accept the differences as something beneficial or even fun.  The ideas that really don’t resonate with us we would learn to let lie.  An idea in itself does nothing.  We need ideas as they are the foundation of creation.  More accurately, the feeling around an idea is the foundation of creation.  We will struggle to bring forth anything that doesn’t truly feel good to us so it’s important to learn what resonates and what we want to pursue.  What makes us feel good.  What makes us tick. This is a practice that aligns us with who we are because we are able to get out of the mind and work with how we feel.  In reading Joe Dispenza’s book, he talks about how honoring the feelings we have we learn to quantum leap.  Quantum leaping is a matter of collapsing the now and allowing the reality to take manifest simply through aligning with the feeling of the experience we want to have.  That is exactly what kids do.  Instead of struggling for control, we need to spend more time learning to be like a kid again.