“Remember you are the designer, curator and architect of your life and you always have the power to rearrange, alter, and dictate how you want it to look,” unknown.  When we understand the power we actually have in this life, it can be overwhelming and even frightening.  There is also great joy in it but, especially in Western society, we are trained to fear responsibility. We are taught it’s dangerous to go out on our own and take those kinds of chances, that things like that only pan out for certain people under certain circumstances.  We all have the power and the only thing that we need to know is that keeping us blind to it is intentional and other people benefit from it.  That’s enough for me to start taking action to rearrange my life and who has access to me—that’s something we always have control over.  As we learn to accept who we are, to accept the position we are in, to accept the responsibility for our roles in getting where we are, it’s easier to see that we have the power to change it moving forward.  We can be very intentional and specific with the life we want—we just have to be bold enough to act on it.

I’ve talked about it a bunch of times here—life isn’t meant to be stagnant.  We aren’t meant to decide who we are at 18 years old and be that person for the rest of our lives.  We lived with this idea for so long that we needed to know who we were when we weren’t even out of our teen years.  Granted, different times experienced different events in lives and they spent their lives living, not behind the screen all the time.  But so much can happen in 1, 5, 10, 15 years—at any time. Things can happen in the blink of an eye and suddenly all the rules change.  We have new information to make decisions with and we need to integrate it because it doesn’t agree with what we already know.  That’s ok.  We are meant to challenge ourselves and to grow and we need to leave room for those adaptations in our lives.  Being rigid makes us brittle.  We also have the ability to simply decide that something isn’t working for us and change it.  If it no longer serves or feels right, we have the ability to shift focus and change what we are doing.

We don’t always need a life altering reason for things to change—sometimes we want to be the ones altering our lives and we decide to do something different.  Commitment and follow through are key.  If we decide to make a change and we stop half-way through the process, we will be disappointed because the effort doesn’t yield the result.  When we confuse the universe, the work doesn’t get done.  In order to design and curate our lives, we need to be clear and decisive and we have to do the work to bring it to life.  No, we don’t always have to know the how, but we certainly have to put in the effort.  We do that by continually making decisions that support our choices.  We are gifted with the ability to have some say in what we want in life—all we have to do is decide and do what it takes to make it happen.  Our lives can look drastically different if we want them to.  The choice is always ours.