It’s ok to decide that we have to do what works for us, to make ourselves the focus when things have been out of balance for a while.  Because if we keep pushing when we aren’t balanced, when we are constantly pulled in different directions by the weight of other people’s demands (or demands of the world in general), we will spin out and fly off center.  So it’s ok to clear and balance and do what regulates us.  It’s ok to find the things that bring quality to our lives.  Clean it up so it matches what we need. This all means that if we disappoint someone, let that be the least of what we worry about.  It is better to disappoint someone than to live a life of regret. We aren’t meant to operate in the same way that every other person does.  The people who don’t understand us…do we really need them to understand or is it more important that we understand ourselves?

No one will read the inner workings of our minds any more than we can read theirs.  No one knows what our potential is.  It’s our responsibility to decide and move in the direction we are called.  The more we understand ourselves, the clearer these choices become.  That initial action toward what is right for us is often uncomfortable, often daunting, and sometimes even isolating.  That doesn’t mean we aren’t meant to do it.  Taking the uncomfortable step now can set us up for the greatest breakthrough we have ever experienced.  The brain is such an amazing thing.  Capable of creating and producing thought, producing emotion, even inspiring action…but if that underlying foundation is cracked with fear, uncertainty, insecurity then it makes it harder to shift that focus.  We need to learn to release the beliefs we have been taught and operate on our highest potential. 

Constantly focusing on how other people feel or will react is a waste of energy.  First of all, we can never be truly certain of anyone’s thoughts as I said above.  Secondly, we always have the choice of where we direct our energy—and I’ve learned that it’s better to put that energy toward our own goals than someone else’s.  This doesn’t mean to be selfish, it simply means to release the guilt when we have to do what is right for us.  We are meant to help others, but we are meant to help them through the use of our gifts, not through what they expect of us or what is beyond our capacity.  Plus the more we focus on developing our gifts, the more likely we are able to offer something of use to other people.