Who you are should define what you do—not the other way around.  I think the essence of alignment is exactly that: who we say we are matches what we do.  This isn’t how most of us are trained to operate. Many of us spend our time trying to make people feel a certain way about us.  So often the discomfort of our lives is because we are trying to be something we are not.  We seek approval that we don’t need or that doesn’t exist.  We seek to validate our worth with things instead of actions.  We equate value to a dollar amount.  When we bring all we are to the forefront of our lives, the decisions get easier because we know who we are and we know what we need to do, we know what we are willing to do and the actions we need to take.  We know the person we want to be and we behave as such, making decisions comes with ease.  So much of our time is spent doing what other people want us to do or trying to fit in—much like I spoke about yesterday.  When we try to force ourselves to fit in places we don’t belong, we lose sight of who we are and lose direction.

I’m the first to admit that making the decision to approach life with ease and alignment in who we are over constant doing is a huge adjustment.  I’m a constant do-er.  I rarely want to sit still and even if I’m sitting, my mind is highly active with planning, writing, reading, etc.  I’m never not doing something.  I started that habit as a way to prove my worth.  People’s initial reaction to me was that I wasn’t capable of doing something because of how I looked so I would go into hyper-drive and do all the things, pretending I wasn’t exhausted and that I could do more and do it better than anyone.  It worked for a while.  But I still found myself behind the 8 ball—people were moving further ahead of me while I continued to do the grunt work.  Even though I proved myself, they simply piled more on.  Moving into who I am and accepting who I am means new boundaries.  Environments that seek to treat me that way and do not align with honoring who I am are low on my priority and I will get comfortable walking away. 

Our time is too valuable to spend our days worrying about other people’s opinions and waiting for their approval and their judgement of when we are ready and what we deserve in life.  Sometimes we simply have to move forward and take what we know is ours.  When we align our actions with our words, being who we are meant to be is easy.  We know what we need to do.  We get lost in the shuffle if we are constantly trying to make people see us a certain way. We jump from thing to thing rather than knowing what we need to do next.  Life slows down when we are in our element, in our purpose.  Assuredness and confidence grow when we know who we are and don’t allow the noise to sway us in a different direction.  There is certainty in following our purpose.  We just need to believe that we know the answers and that we can trust the answers we have inside of us, know that when we ask an answer will come and we will understand the guidance.  Don’t be afraid to stand in who we are, bring light to everything we are and dive into it fully.