There is another side to the concept of moving and that is the acceptance of change—and dealing with the fact that the idea of change can be scarier than the actual change itself.  Yet again this is a matter of keeping perspective.  We have this idea of what we are letting go of and we fail to realize that sometimes we are having a more challenging time because we have to let go of the IDEA of something rather than the thing itself.  Letting go of the idea means letting go of the potential of what something could have been, the desire we held close to our hears.  We also tend to favor the nostalgic look back and romanticizing things because that is where we are familiar.  The mind has a tricky game it plays where we convince ourselves that something wasn’t as bad as we thought or that we are safer with the known instead of venturing our.  We have to reconcile and learn to accept that not all things are meant to stay the same.  We are meant to grow and evolve and that means things will look different and we will get different perspectives—the alternative is stagnation.    

We can’t confuse the idea that there is something noble in keeping things the same.  We have put meaning into tradition that doesn’t necessarily translate to today.  People aren’t necessarily hoping for the things to happen that way again, they are looking for familiarity and comfort that comes with what is known.  We can’t see the future and that gets scary, so we seek the same thing.  We can’t undergo the process of change by doing the same things—we will simply end up with the same results.  Growth isn’t easy and no one ever said that our job was to keep life the same.  We kept it the same because we were familiar with it.  The further we are from how it “used to be” the more uncomfortable we feel.  But here’s the thing: No one ever said life would be the same as we progress, they just said it would be ok.  The most important thing to remember is this: Just because it’s different doesn’t mean it’s not ok.  The mind has a tendency to equate change with danger wo we need to remind ourselves that all is well and anything we experience is part of the plan.

So allow change and work on the perspective that change is by definition destructive.  In that destruction we find growth and peace.  Life isn’t about seeking comfort.  Life gives us the choice to honor our true needs and pursue our goals and just because they go a different way or take place at a different time than we thought doesn’t mean it’s wrong.  We are meant to create, we aren’t meant to “be ok,” we are meant to live.  We have to realize that life is simply ok as it is: it isn’t meant for us to change the plan.  It’s messy and bumpy and can get scary at times, but who are we to say that we need a smooth road to make progress.  We can’t control the path, we can control how we navigate it.  Giving up control is one of the hardest things to do.  But finding control over our thoughts is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves.  It’s all ok.