“If you can’t get the growth where you are it’s time to pivot, embrace change, start a new path—carve it out.  Shift or change in a new direction,” Wild Lotus Tarot.  I want to add a brief caveat after yesterday’s piece.  I stand behind everything I said: I truly believe we can move mountains if we need to.  But I want to add the discretion factor—decide if the mountain is worth moving or if it’s easier to climb it or walk around it or walk away from it—and also know when something is beyond saving so we MUST walk away.  There are certain paths that are not ours and the ability to know which trail is ours is a key marker in our success, our emotional state, and our results.  So, if we aren’t seeing the growth we need, if we aren’t nourished and supported as we deserve (and we all deserve support), then we have a different question to answer. It’s no longer CAN I do it, but do I WANT to do it.  There are things in life that are not meant for us.  We aren’t meant to be everything to everyone at all times—we are meant to be ourselves and align with the magic we are.  This means that not every environment is healthy for us or will support our growth.

I spent years of my life hinging my worth on other people accepting me and being good at things.  I tried to fit into every environment I was in.  I wanted to be accepted everywhere I went.  All that did was keep me exactly where I was.  I couldn’t find the distinction between what made me happy, what gave me fuel and what was strictly for other people’s benefit.  When they were happy, I was happy.  But the truth is it was a lot of energy wasted because it was the constant changing of masks depending on where I was and who I was with.  It was exhausting.  There comes a time where we have to stop and evaluate what journey we want to take.  If where we are isn’t conducive to our growth then it may be time to consider moving on.  Now, if there is the possibility to get some sort of gratification or make a positive change by pushing the rock, then by all means, do it.  In some situations all that’s required is a little push.  Every other situation requires the other choices: climb, find another way, or walk away. 

Above all, remember that life is meant to encourage and promote growth.  No matter where we are, we desire growth on some level.  Life doesn’t care how that growth happens as long as it happens.  Don’t waste time wondering what could have been or wishing for something else.  Make a decision and do the work.  Make a decision and trust that you will get there.  Make a decision and know change is for the better.  Know that it’s ok to not know it all.  You can’t see the whole road at night but you can still get home by way of the headlights.  All we have to do is start and soon the direction reveals itself.  We find our way and soon enough we are blooming brighter than we have ever done before.  We find the full expression of who we are and there is no more mountain—we fly above it.