“Transformations are painful.  You dissolve your old self and rebuild your new one.  Your eyes reform with a new ability of seeing.  Your brain is connected to new pathways that you don’t quite understand.  You step into the light, unfurl your wings and fly for the first time,” Richard Miller.  Life changes whether we are ready for it or not and we often fear that change when we aren’t sure what’s going to happen.  We have an innate fear of the unknown, so knowing who we are is key.  One day we wake up and we are no longer children, we are the drivers of our lives.  We will lose everyone at some point so it’s even more important to value the time we have while we are here, to love those we have while we are here, to love ourselves enough to show our authenticity and form connections.  That way when we dissolve in the goo of our lives and we aren’t sure we are able to do it, we will remember that it’s safe to let go.  We will release that fear and we will allow those changes to take place and we will emerge with our wings. 

Transformations take many forms.  We are going through the transition of loss right now, witnessing the death of one of my aunts.  Naturally at the end we all think of the lifetime that went before it.  We remember the smile, we remember the laugh.  The fights, the drama, the pettiness no longer seem important.  Life doesn’t always go how we think it will and it runs on its own agenda.  It will not wait until you are ready to reconcile before taking someone.  It moves and it will take what it needs at any time.  Life runs according to its own plan on its own timeline.  Make sure to take the time to appreciate what we have now.  Truly, no matter how long we have here, it will feel short in the end.  There is never enough time to do what we want to do until we learn to make time for it.  There are events that happen no matter how hard we try to stop them—time moving, losing people, evolving into new versions of ourselves are some of these things.

Transformations can be painful but they are beautiful things.  They are necessary things.  Part of transition is accepting and integrating new information about how we viewed things before.  It’s like removing a veil and seeing the truth.  It’s putting aside the fear and doing what is right for ourselves without fear of repercussion.  It’s allowing ourselves to see the fragility of those we thought were always strong and seeing the strength in someone we thought was weak.  Strength comes when we embrace who we are and we learn to fly on our own—that is the point of transformation.  Time moves forward regardless of what we do—we need to spend it in what is important to us, in what brings us joy and love.  Strength comes from walking away from what we thought we needed/what we thought we knew and trusting ourselves to become what we are meant to become.  Embrace it and allow the old to dissolve and rise into the new.