“Ego sees failure, humility sees feedback.  Ego sees perfection, humility sees progress. Ego blames, humility takes responsibility,” Simon Alexander Ong. Ego is a complex entity.  Ego simultaneously tells us we are the best and never good enough.  Ego sets the expectations that we will be powerful and successful and that we need those things to be happy or worthy.  Ego also sets the expectation that we have the answers.  In learning to hear what really matters, we have to learn to shut out what ego tells us and go with what we know.  We have to be humble enough to learn new ways of doing things.  The goal of this world isn’t to be perfect, it’s to learn as much as we can and do better for the future.  We don’t need to win or prove or have power over others to be worthy.  Moving toward our dreams is a huge learning curve and we have to know that we won’t be perfect on the first step out.  We have to learn.  We also have to know that a learning curve doesn’t change our value in the equation.

If we are going to accept that we need to trust ourselves in order to move forward in a new system, we have to put aside any illusion that we know it all because we only know what is in our current construct.  We are working on putting the pieces of the puzzle together and the total picture isn’t quite clear yet.  We are just being asked to show our pieces, and find their new place.  Things don’t always fit the way we thought they did and we need to adjust.  When something goes wrong, it isn’t an opportunity to lament over it as a failure, we are meant to learn from it because getting answers is a step forward.  Ego tries its hardest to be the reason we do things and to make us believe it is infallible in all of its answers.  Ironically we need enough ego to have courage to step forward and give our ideas a shot.

There is a balance in between, the sweet spot between getting it right and knowing how to make adjustments.  It’s knowing our real purpose and knowing how to take responsibility for getting where we need to go.  The how may not always be evident but the effort and focus is singular—and it isn’t about being right, it’s about following what we know is right for us and sharing that gift.  Take the leap into who we are meant to be even if everyone thinks we are crazy.  Things don’t always have to look how we expect them to in order to be perfect for us.  There is perfection in what is, perfection we have no control over, and it is that inherent perfection that points us where we need to go.  The humility comes from knowing we will have to course correct as we learn in spite of top notch navigation.  Ego gets us started as easily as it stops us—it is when we learn this balance that we create progress, and what a beautiful freedom that is.