Choose love.  Life is too damn short to not choose love daily.  Choose to love ourselves, love the people around us, love life.  Love living and creating this life.  Love being part of this life.  We had a horrific moment the other night, one of those moments you know you can never go back from—it will forever be a before and after.  These things happen and they come suddenly and out of left field.  In that moment I knew that I needed to choose love over and over again.  I needed to choose support.  It was no longer about me and my comfort, it was about saving someone, loving someone completely.  It was about diving into the lion’s den.  While I wish to never see anything like it again, I will say the moment provided the utmost clarity about what is important to me.  Anything personal, any demands I had of life didn’t matter in that moment, it was about projecting the energy of love onto someone to hold them long enough so they could think.

Not to sound cliché, but love truly is one of the most powerful forces in the world.  It creates an energy of protection, an energy of sustenance, and an energy of wholeness.  Loving in general is used loosely, but when done with spirit behind it, it can change the course of our lives and the lives of others.  Admittedly, I have a tendency to be hyper critical of how others do things and I compare a lot.  While this may not make it any better, this behavior comes from two things: 1. I’m just as critical of myself and I hold myself to those expectations as well.  When I’m not meeting my own expectations, this behavior can worsen. 2. I spent a lot of time cleaning up after people who could have made a better choice and decided to let someone else (me) be responsible for their actions.  What I learned from this experience is that there are some moments when that shit doesn’t matter.  As hurt as we are, as much as we think we can’t keep doing it, we find the way to push through because it’s about someone else’s sanity and not our ego.

When we truly love someone, that ego tends to go away regardless.  Think of the vulnerability we have with those closest to us.  Our closest relationships know the most about us and there is very little we can hide in the way of body language and what goes unspoken.  That doesn’t stop us from trying to control them at times because we are still human and trying to protect ourselves because that vulnerability can be too much.  When we spend too much time protecting ourselves, however, we can let the other person’s needs to unnoticed.  Don’t ever let it get that far.  Take the time to stop and dwell in love.  Communicate in love. Find out what is needed in the present moment with love.  Don’t let someone slip away because we are so concerned with how we are impacted.  It may take a drastic action for us to remember what is important, but once we have that wake up call, don’t let it slip away.  Find a way back to what matters because life  and love are the most important things.