What’s underneath the underneath?  What is really there that’s holding us back?  Why do we fear and procrastinate?  This is a bit of a deeper dive into the conversations we’ve had over the last two days.  Finding our limits requires knowing where they come from.  Hendrick’s suggests four main beliefs that hold us in place, and I would add that yesterday’s piece on not following our purpose is another way we pin ourselves where we are.  This requires shining a light on the things we would rather not discuss but it reveals not only what we are afraid/ashamed of, but the why behind it.  In some cases it’s a relatively simple thing (I said simple, not easy).  For example, we learn that what we feel about ourselves isn’t what we feel about ourselves (i.e. our parents/siblings thought we were a burden so we feel we are a burden).  Other times we learn we have to take accountability for our actions (i.e. we learn to accept that we caused issues in our live and that we are not always the victim or that we have to set and maintain boundaries with others).  Other times we have to learn and accept who we are (i.e. what we are doing fulfills no other purpose than what we were trained to do because that is what we were told we must do). 

This digging takes effort but once we get to the bottom of it, life becomes a different game.  We find our chance to connect and see how simple life actually is.  We see the complexity we’ve put in place and we eliminate that for a journey of connection that, while still complex, is far more fulfilling.  It’s the purpose we’ve been looking for.  Nearly everything we do outside of our purpose and the things we do for survival is distraction.  We treat those distractions as normal, as what normal people do.  To a degree we do need those things—but how we focus our time is key.  Anything we do should be done with intention whether it is creating work, speaking with people, or even sitting on the couch watching T.V.  When done with purpose behind it, we receive a different energy than simply distracting ourselves.  We no longer do things for the sake of doing them, but for the results we see in our lives and the lives of those around us.  Nothing holds us back any longer because we no longer operate from false beliefs, we operate with intention. 

That light we feared shining on things we didn’t want to discuss becomes a beacon for ourselves and others.  The intent with shining that light isn’t to find fault, it is to find the truth.  So often we are afraid that we will get blamed for things or we carry shame about what we did when we didn’t know better.  But the truth is we can shift that focus as well, change the energy to one of learning and sharing a common experience.  Underneath shame is fear of isolation and separation, when the reality is, sharing those experiences and learning why we do things creates far more connection that creating the illusion of having it all together.  People see through that anyway because we are all learning and guessing here.  Some people are gifted and able to operate in their genius more often than others, but they are learning too, they just learn and experiment with intention.  The more we shine light on our humanity, the more we see our personal intention and the motives behind what we do.  Nothing can stop us then.