Once you realize you can do it alone, you become a very powerful person.  Last week I spoke about trusting instinct and knowing when people aren’t for us.  This is true.  There are doorways we are meant to go through alone because the universe knows that certain people aren’t for us.  Certain situations aren’t for us.  Learning who we are and knowing what we can handle is key.  We can always handle more than we thought we could, and we often don’t know it until we are in the situation.  Knowing what we can do on our own is part of that.  It isn’t about being alone, it isn’t about isolating.  It’s about trusting our own wings and knowing our capabilities.  It’s about owning our power by not relying on others to give us that which we can do for ourselves.  Of course there are times we need help—but sometimes that help comes in the form of people disappointing us and letting us know that we are able to do it on our own. 

Many times the ability to find our strengths and do things on our own comes from the decision to do so.  Deciding is one of the most powerful tools we have.  We make the choice and our actions follow because we clarified what needs to be done.  So if we choose to see what we can do, what we are capable of, then it stands that we find our power.  The more clarity we can create in our lives, the more we tap into our power because we are eliminating the extraneous details.  We find the path we are meant for and the doors open.  There is little resistance in what we are meant to do but we are trained to feel like everything good needs to be a fight.  The truth is, the fact that there is ease doesn’t mean it’s easy.  We still need to put in the work, but the work that is done in flow feels different.  Think of pushing a cart up a hill without wheels.  Almost impossible.  But when we find the tools and create the wheels, things move a whole lot easier.  The best tool is to understand what we are capable of.  Creativity breeds more creativity, so the more we stretch that muscle, the easier it becomes and the more flow is introduced to life.

It also helps to understand that more than one thing can be true at once.  We can be both independent and still need help.  We can do it on our own and still need to learn.  We can rely on others until we learn to rely on ourselves.  Life is about balance.  The point is that we need to learn how to trust our own instincts.  Trust who we are and know when we need to wear the conductor hat and when we need to sit back and be the passenger.  The ability to stand on our own two feet makes it easier for us to be there for others and to step into who we truly are.  Decide it can be done and find the way to do it.  There are so many ways to own our power—and it isn’t about power over people, it’s about ownership of our own lives.  Believe in ourselves and we will always be shown the way.