“I just sucked at something but then I told myself, ‘That’s no problem.  You are good at other things.’ We gotta leave some things for other people to be good at.  Sometimes sucking is a great act of generosity,” Glennon Doyle.  I like this one.  Our lives aren’t meant to be a series of perfect moments.  I know I put that kind of pressure on myself.  I thought everything needed to be perfect in order to be beautiful, or even to be accepted.  But life just is this way, and not everything is as we want it to be.  But that IS the beauty: life is beautiful as it is, through all of our trying, through our learning, through our trials, through our failing, through our becoming.  All of those things are equally as beautiful as the successes, the joys, the fun, the wins, the longshots that pull through—and it’s even better when you can see the beauty in the failure, the learning as living.  We get one shot and if we can learn to adapt and take it as we are, what a gift.

As we weave our way through life, we will have these moments.  We have to come to terms that we aren’t good at everything.  We don’t have to be good at everything to find joy in it.  It’s also about perspective and the willingness to try.  We will find things we thought we loved that we are terrible at, that don’t fit us.  We will also find things we thought we’d hate that are a perfect fit, a natural thing in our lives.  The point is, if we can change our lives at any time, we have to constantly shift and find new ways to do things.  We have to try new things.  we need to be willing to follow the impulse and try what comes next.  We have to figure out what fits us and we do that by trying things.  Don’t ever be afraid to try.  There is beauty in trying.

It isn’t about being perfect, it’s about presence.  The more present we can be, the better.  Now, I realized with ADHD, the definition of presence may change a bit because attention can’t be divided that successfully, there’s a million things going on.  We can’t be present for everything because 1. That’s really stressful—there’s a lot that goes on in any given moment and we can’t be aware of all of it, and 2. It creates more of that “squirrel” mentality than it keeps us in the moment.  But the presence we feel when we allow ourselves to be focused on what’s happening is a thing of beauty.  It truly does become all consuming and takes over the mind and body.  There is ease in it.  It doesn’t matter how good or bad we are, we’ve created space to try and accept the result.  To try and try again.  Imperfect things exist perfectly and they thrive doing what they do.  We can too.