“Once you officially decide to leave old situations behind, your mind will settle down your heart will automatically feel at ease and your soul will forever be grateful for the relief you provided,” Esther T.  The knowledge of what you want to do and the next steps you need to take is like a flashlight in the dark.  It’s like a welcome ray of sunshine that lights up the day.  There is immense power in deciding.  We’ve spoken of assurance and affirmations and action over the last few days and I want to highlight that there is a chain of events set in motion when you decide.  That decision creates the clarity you need to move forward and suddenly the life you want can take shape.  I want to reiterate from yesterday’s post that the decision should be in actual alignment with who you are rather than what you think you’re supposed to be, but that decision nonetheless can change the course. 

I ended yesterday’s piece speaking of the chaos of fear.  Fear is designed to keep us aware at its core, but what happens is the confusion creates a space of confusion in our minds as well.  We can’t see which way to go and suddenly everything around us becomes dangerous.  It is a choice to leave things behind that no longer serve and we need the wherewithal to understand what no longer serves.  In that regard we need to be stronger than our fears and we need to see fear for what it is.  We can appreciate the goal to keep us safe, but we can also acknowledge when that fear is simply dialed in too high.  We don’t want to live in chaos, we can’t function in chaos, things can’t settle in chaos.  So we need to learn to find the center of our own storm and make the choice on how we want to proceed.  Deciding immediately eliminates other options, and while that is scary, sometimes the less distraction around us, the easier we can see what options apply to us.

I don’t claim the answers will suddenly appear—although that is a comforting thought to me and I do believe it CAN happen—but I do attest and back the assumption that creating clarity with a decision eliminates the self-induced anxiety that comes from trying to be all things to everyone at once.  I also fully believe that keeping your center in the storm and knowing who you are provides a security that you wouldn’t find outside of yourself.  Let go of the old patterns as soon as you recognize they aren’t working.  Understand we aren’t meant to be all things to all people—we are simply meant to bring out the best in ourselves to shine that light further on the world.  Sitting in something we are familiar with but miserable in doesn’t serve any better than going after a goal that isn’t for us.  We aren’t meant to be miserable.  We are meant to live in joy and love and we need to acknowledge our worth of that joy and love.  It feels so much better living there than it is to stay in chaos. 

Let go of the chaos and the addiction to chaos.  It feels much better being light and carrying ourselves than it does being afraid and feeling like we have to carry the world.  Just because we are familiar with something doesn’t mean that it’s the right thing.  We need to be who we are, not what we think we need to be.  The world is simple, we make it complicated and we can choose to uncomplicate it with the decision to stand firmly in who we are and become who we are meant to be.  Allow yourself to recognize who you are and stand on that foundation instead of hoping things will settle around you. Intention is key and focus settles the fear.  There is no need to rush, but there is no need to sit in the fear of indecision.  You know chaos doesn’t serve even if it feels familiar.  The uncomfortable whisper of the unknown has more reason than the din of chaos you’ve allowed yourself to be used to.  Make a choice and let the storm settle.