“More is lost by indecision than wrong decision,” Marcus Tullius Cicero. I can vouch that more time is lost waiting for something to happen and trying to find the way running on the same path than taking a wrong turn and heading toward something. A few days ago we talked about a look don’t touch approach to life. That is the perfect storm for someone to develop indecision. When you don’t trust your instincts you lose sight of how to create, pivot, and adapt. You expect things to go a certain way, you think that certain actions will yield specific results and when that doesn’t happen, you lose your way. I’ve spent many a night crying over my frustration with doing the right thing and nothing happening.
Most of my indecision has come from exactly that. I thought I was doing the right thing—I spent my life doing exactly as I was told—and I still wouldn’t get what I was “promised.” That made me question everything. I started asking myself why anything mattered if people could literally do what they want with no consequences but I felt like stepping a toe out of line would rain down punishment for me. Maybe that’s a bit dramatic, but the feeling is true. It’s easy to lose sight of your own intuition and instinct when what you think will happen, doesn’t.
What I learned, however, is that we waste more time thinking things should be a certain way when we could simply accept them as they are. I’ve mentioned it before that we waste more time wishing and thinking things should be a certain way than if we were to simply accept what is around us. And the truth is, no matter what, the universe will operate on its own timeline with its own plan whether we like it or not. It’s pretty futile to fight something that just IS. That isn’t to say we don’t have influence or power, it’s just that our power is bound within the scope of what we are meant to do and what we are capable of doing.
The other thing I learned is that there really is no wrong decision. I lived linearly where x leads to y because that is the natural course of things. And then I saw it wasn’t. Things would happen exactly as they SHOULDN’T regardless of my input. A very small example was a password to my bank account. I knew what it was, I typed it correctly and no matter what I did, I couldn’t get into my account on the computer. The app was one thing, but the computer wouldn’t cooperate. I called support and they confirmed I did nothing wrong—I still had to create a new password. Sometimes life just does what it needs to and it doesn’t make sense. No matter what we do, we will be guided exactly where we are meant to be. Who knows, maybe someone figured out my password and the universe was protecting me. The same for all of our decisions: even if we make a wrong turn, we will find where we need to go eventually.
So don’t paralyze yourself with overthinking or believing it has to be a certain way. Simply accept and make a choice with the information you have. All is well and it will always turn out exactly as it is meant to be. Don’t waste the time you have with doing nothing. Spend your time enjoying life and living and learning and loving. That is never a wrong decision. In those experiences, you will see the bigger picture, the lesson you are meant to learn. You will even find your purpose. So live. Make the choices, take another road, stop what isn’t working. Start over as often as you need to, but keep trying. Keep moving and keep deciding. No one makes it out alive anyway, so spend the time you have doing what you love. Go toward love, always. You will find the way.