I wrote a piece a while back about the roller coaster of life. Talking about how things will always go up and down and we can choose to go with it or we can choose to fight every downhill that we get. The more I’ve thought about this, I see things a bit differently. If we assign meaning to the events of our lives, it isn’t so much that life is a roller coaster. More that the roller coaster we endure daily is in our head. The mind is such a powerful thing. It perceives what the eyes see and it interprets it into an event that we believe needs a reaction and assigns a label to it—good, bad, or otherwise. And based on our training, we take that further and decide the emotion around it.
As we all know, life’s events will happen whether we want them to or not. They will happen on their own time and in their own way. Life is simply that: LIFE. It moves forward. It isn’t personal, it simply moves in its own natural rhythm and we are simply here as part of the game. The meaning we assign to it is unique to us—and completely changeable. We don’t have to do what we’ve always done—we can move forward with grace and ease or we can go kicking and screaming. The point is, no matter what we choose or how we feel, things will still move forward. We can’t change what we’ve done, so dwelling there is a waste of time. We can’t prevent what will happen, that just causes anxiety.
When you realize how powerful the mind is, you understand where it’s important to direct your focus. Whatever happens outside is going to happen anyway, but inside, in the course of your thoughts, you can change how you feel about it. You can change how you see it, change the meaning you assign to it. The only way to move forward is to adapt. The irony of our idea of control is that we were given control over a great deal of things yet we choose to not exercise that. We want to control the immutable forces of nature. The secret is to live with nature because we are OF nature. We are a part of it. We are meant to work with it, not master it. The only thing we can master is ourselves.
Mastery requires acceptance and understanding. For our part, we need to accept and understand who we are. That is the greatest message I’ve shared in these posts. Accept and understand who we are. I’m not suggesting to not be driven or to not have goals that seem too big, far from it. I’m suggesting taking on who we are and loving ourselves no matter what. I’m talking about no longer projecting an image, rather getting incredibly vulnerable and sharing that without shame. I’m talking about embracing humanity and creativity and finding that spot of purpose and joy. If we can manage that, all the rest is gravy. It all comes together and life feels less like a battlefield and more like a playground. I’m ready to play. I’m ready to revel in who I am and let go of all the times I was told to be quiet. I’m ready to use my voice. Are you?