“No one sees what you see, even if they see it too,” via meditationsecrets. As I thought through the history of my family over the last week or so, I realized that so much of what we have experienced over this lifetime meant something different to each of us. A few months ago I wrote about this phenomena happening with a really close family member. I couldn’t understand for the life of me how we both went through the same exact thing but we felt so differently about it and we even remembered it happening differently. It made me so angry because I KNEW in my heart what happened. But the truth is, THAT is life. We form our final opinion and understand events based on our experiences. So it doesn’t make sense to waste a lot of time trying to make people see things from your point of view. We can literally go through the exact same thing and we will feel differently about it.
I spent a lot of my life trying to be right and trying to do what I thought was right because my frame of reference was that we are meant to be people pleasers and that it was more important to be right than to connect. Surprise, surprise, where did that get me? Running in circles, confused, angry, and feeling behind as those unencumbered by someone else’s opinion moved forward. We aren’t meant to chase our dreams with abandon because someone else could get hurt. I believed that if we were meant to achieve our dreams, we needed to be worthy and that it took all sorts of crazy effort and then we MIGHT be granted the privilege of hitting our goals.
But this isn’t true. We CAN spend our time like that, trying to be right or trying to make people see things our way but we have the option to simply let go and take our own steps in life based on our own experiences and needs. And with the understanding that multiple existences/experiences can happen at the same time. It isn’t about being right, it’s about knowing what is right for you. We don’t need to spend our lives running around the bottom of the mountain telling people where they are wrong and where we are right—we just need to focus on our climb.
At the end of the day, you will realize that it didn’t matter what other people believed as you were on your journey—it never did. YOUR journey is what mattered. We are here to make the most of our lives and our own unique purposes. We can’t fulfill our purpose if we waste our time worrying about what other people think. It doesn’t matter. When you learn to let it lie, you learn grace and acceptance, knowing that the other person may be blocking things out for one reason or another. You learn to live in the truth of your story and know you are safe there. Nothing else matters.