What Matters

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“Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Focus on your character, not your reputation.  Focus on your blessings, not your misfortunes,” Via Manifestinglord. Continuing our theme of self-improvement and expressing our gifts, I felt this was a good starting point.  We don’t come out of the gate automatically believing we can do what we’re trying to achieve.  It typically starts quietly, with an inkling, or a feeling that there is a different possibility.  Then we decide to possibly stop numbing ourselves with distraction  

We are taught early on that if you aren’t perfect at something, that you aren’t successful.  We are taught that areas we need to improve upon somehow diminish what we are capable of.  Imagine if we let go of what we can’t do and start looking at what we CAN do. It’s a matter of reframing and rethinking what we do.  It’s about approaching what we do with intention and if the intention is to improve, then we will see continual progress.  Trying to achieve perfection only sets us up for failure and it deters us from trying again in the future. Similarly, focusing on what we are bad at doesn’t move us to get better, it makes us feel worse. 

When it comes to character, we often face a fine line between being concerned about what we look like over doing the right thing.  Our character is tied to our integrity—our reputation is tied to what people think.  Character is who we are regardless of who is around.  Reputation is how others perceive us.  You see where this is going?  We have no power over what our reputation is—people will think what they want to no matter what you do.  Our character is who we are. 

We have to learn to take small steps toward what we want each and every day, establish consistency and follow through in order to get where we want to be.  It all starts with taking stock of what you have working for you instead of piling up what is against you.  If we live in a constant state of lack, we will never establish a belief in our abilities.  Learning what is really important in life is the key to shifting where our energy goes.  We do have a say in what we give time and attention to.  You will find that we have far more blessings in this world than we consider.  The fact that we wake up and breathe is a gift.  If you have a roof over your head, clothes on your back, and food to eat, you’re blessed. 

Each of us has strengths.  Our job is to learn to apply them and to appreciate what we’ve been given.  Mourning what we don’t have only takes away from what we have.  It’s easy to give the mind power to believe that you are worthless—take it away.  Feed your mind all that you are capable of.  Tell yourself that you are worth the space you take up.  That you have a gift to give the world.  It may not be conventional but if it is yours, stick with what is right for you and share it.  You may surprise yourself.   

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