I listened to a talk from Tom Bilyeu Lewis Howes where they discussed the definition of meek. This really struck me because I’ve always looked at meek as a doormat, end of story. Bilyeu and Howes took a different interpretation of it—even though Bilyeu initially agreed with my interpretation. Now, to preface this, we often feel like we need to put on a tough persona so people don’t take advantage of us. We are also fed messages about honey attracting more flies than vinegar. So we deal with some pretty mixed messages as a whole. During the conversation, Howes interpreted meek as somebody who has the beast inside but can keep it controlled and quoted a Chines proverb that says, “It’s better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.” That floored me.
Being meek has nothing to do with being stepped on. It has everything to do with keeping that rage inside under control and choosing how you express yourself. You tread cautiously but you are aware and you take the time to evaluate before you respond. Meek isn’t a doormat—meek is a self-composed rock star. The saying, “Do no harm but take no shit,” comes to mind (attributed to Moira Fowley-Doyle). There are limits with meek because the meek know what is best for them and they abstain or partake as appropriate. Meek is pretty bad ass, to be honest.
I think the reason this conversation struck me as so important right now is because the ENTIRE world is in turmoil in some way or another. We are being misled and misguided on a daily basis and it is so challenging to make heads or tails of what is really going on. We are trained to buy into fear and then buy a coffee and then buy a seat or shut up as we watch the world burn around us. It is time to drastically change this story. The best way to do that is to start redefining things in your life, including how you define words or any preconceived notions you may have. Once you can see the world through new eyes, it never looks the same.
If we learn to slow down and really evaluate what is actually happening over what we are told is happening, we may just be able to hear each other enough to come to some sort of solution. We have to learn to control what is inside of us and to stop interpreting other people’s opinions as a threat. Then we need to put our egos aside and understand that our ego is not telling the truth and it doesn’t have our best interest at heart. The ego is only designed to make us look good and will serve no purpose in a real discussion about making things better. Coming together is so important and unifying over a common goal is the best way to do that. I’m not saying all will be rainbows and sunshine, but I am saying that we can stand to learn some patience and trust and to shut our mouths for a minute.
I’ve always been a strong willed person and I completely messed that up for a long time. I thought the point of being strong willed was to be right. I see now that I am strong enough to help those who can’t help themselves and I am not afraid to fight for the underdog. We have all been blessed with common sense and it is high time that we all start using it again. Take care of each other. All of the rest is nonsense. So when it comes to being meek, I am all about tending what is mine in order to teach others to care for theirs. I am all about keeping myself in control to see the truth, to hear other sides, and to learn. I may not be perfect at it, but I am working on it. So, I’m cool with being meek. I’m cool with sharing my message and letting people figure it out. I’m not worried because this isn’t about power. It’s about the long game—and whether you like it or not, we are all playing.