When Your Boundaries Are Tested

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It seems that when we make a decision there often comes something that appears to offer us exactly what we wanted before we decided what we wanted.  This seems to be the way of it; sometimes the universe wants to see if you’re serious about your goals before it opens the way.  The opposite is also true.  If there is a situation that you’re undecided about while you’re uncomfortable with how things are, the universe will often increase that discomfort to push a decision from you.  The universe needs to know what to do just as much as you do.

My company has been bought out and we are in the VERY early stages of mutual discovery and getting clear on the direction we will be heading in.  I know I’m at the point where I’m going to have to make some decisions for myself.  One lesson I’ve learned is that the universe responds to unapologetic clarity.  I know I need my job and I am ever grateful for what I’ve learned as a professional and for what it affords me to do.  But it isn’t where my life is—it isn’t my livelihood.  I want to live a life more in order with the natural course of what I’m meant to do.  I can’t be both the person who does everything that I’m told in the secure life that has no meaning other than to serve other people’s needs and the wild and creative woman providing help and inspiration to others to live authentically.

The conflict comes because there are always things I need to learn and now is the time to decide which lessons come next: being strong and making a go of it on my own, or attempting to weather the changes out of my control—waiting to see how it goes with the decisions made above my head.  Jim Carrey made a speech where he talked about his father taking the safe option in life and losing that job.  He said, “I’ve learned that you can fail at what you don’t like, so why not try at something you do.”  And there it is, my friends.  You can suffer what other people decide for you or you can learn to give your life everything you’ve got.

I feel like the safe decision, while necessary in some cases, can be so detrimental.  We’ve created a world of systems and rules and expectations and we’ve lost touch with our innate gifts, the things we are meant to use to create.  We are meant to build things that support each other—not things that keep us locked into a system.  If we built it we can build something new as well.      

Don’t misinterpret the lesson: we co-create our reality.  There may be certain doors that are not meant for us, yes, but sometime they are just closed for the time being.  Sometimes they are closed to see if you are creative enough to find another alternative.  And sometimes the universe is just waiting for you to decide which one to walk through.  There are a lot of opportunities out there and we are meant to experience as much as we can.  Don’t waste those opportunities settling.

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