I read a post today that said, “Be firm about your choices right now. Don’t go backwards to habits and situations that weren’t helping you evolve. You have to keep reminding yourself why you even decided to move forward. Stay positive about what’s to come by being consistent with your change now.” Law of attraction Live, Vibe of the Day.
This hit a few points for me, the first is that change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s easy to fall back into those old habits because you’re not seeing the result you’re hoping for. It’s also easy because we know our comfort zone like an old friend and are scared to leave it. We don’t know what is on the other side once we make the decision to be something else. The other thing I thought about is how change makes people around us uncomfortable because they have to change to match your energy. Some people can’t handle that and they will fall away. Don’t ever make that about you. Don’t give up what you have accomplished to appease someone else’s comfort zone. It’s bad enough that most of us suffocate within our own little bubble, don’t ever do it inside of someone else’s.
The other side of this is that taking actions that are good for us tend to make US uncomfortable because we don’t want to hurt anyone. We feel like our successes diminish other people’s chances to accomplish their goals. The latter part is simply not true because the more we flourish, the more we have available to help others. And something we are scared to admit is that your life is worth more than someone else’s temporary feeling. You are allowed to breathe and create and flourish even if it makes others upset. That energy should elevate others around you, not cause them to bring you down. So we can’t take it personally when those around us are uncomfortable with our growth. The only thing we should take personally is our relationship to ourselves; the longest relationship we have is with ourselves so worry about disappointing yourself. You can walk away from the rest, no matter how hard it is, you can change your story at any time.
It can be scary to walk the path alone for a while but the resilience you build, the confidence you foster, and the skills you develop are unparalleled. They will serve the person you are meant to be so you can open up to serve your purpose. So take control of your space—mental and physical. Set your goals and intentions. Do the work and watch what happens. When you think you need to stop, keep going. The lessons you learn and share with the world can hold the key to someone else’s evolution as well.
These are hard lessons to swallow because we feel guilty—I just talked about that the other day. The key to get past this is to practice self-acceptance. Practice pride in who we are as a person. I’m not talking about ego and arrogantly thinking that what we do is always right I’m talking about being happy for the chance to exist and make something good in our lives that can impact others. We have a gift in that we are all here now and we have the means to create and we all have unique gifts to share. Sharing those gifts with the world will ultimately make the world a better place and we can shift to a new state of being. So focus and when it gets hard or uncomfortable, keep going safe in the knowledge that you are doing what is right.