We have all felt tired. Working too much, too many commitments, too much people pleasing. This is the tired of being overextended. Then there is the tired when we are trying to accomplish too much but everything feels off. I’m talking about when we feel all of this and then feel like we are still lacking. I’m talking about the feeling where we are soul tired. This is the tired that sneaks up on us and depletes us. The energy is just gone.
This is the kind of tired where you are in between wanting to do everything and do nothing at the same time and you don’t even know what the problem is. I’ve been feeling a lot of this the last week and I know it’s because I’ve been pushing so much. Quite frankly, I’ve been pushing in every direction. And now I am soul tired. My mind is craving a break.
One thing I’ve learned is that the only way out of these feelings is to go through them. There is no point avoiding them and there is even less a point in really figuring out where it came from. The best thing I’ve found in these situations is to listen to what your body is telling you and just relax and let go. Believe me I know that is far easier said than done, but the more you can train yourself to listen to your body and recognize the symptoms for when you really need a break, the sooner you will get back to feeling more like yourself.
The easiest way to start this process is to stop what you’re doing and hear what your body is telling you. Check in with where you’re at right now. Are your shoulders up at your ears? Is your jaw clenched. Are you hunched over? Is your breathing shallow and fast? If so, begin by consciously giving each area attention and letting yourself release it. Tell yourself you are safe and you can let go. Then turn your attention to your breath. Make sure you’re taking deep belly breaths. If you can, try and do square breathing. This is a four count inhale, a four count hold, a four count exhale, and a four count hold. Do that for as long as it takes you to feel centered again.
Once you feel yourself physically relaxed, you can start untangling the web you’ve created in your mind. Pull on one thread at a time and focus on the things you can change, the things in your control. Sometimes all it takes is recognizing that you’re upset over not having ice cream tonight. Sometimes it’s deeper than that. Sometimes it’s realizing that you’re not on the right track. The good news is that even though we can’t solve all of our issues in one night, we can learn to identify where the issue lies. Knowing what the problem is and where it started is a liberating thing because then we can take steps. Even in those situations completely beyond our control where there is literally nothing we can do about it, we have the power to release it. We still have our power.
Sometimes in the soul tired moments, the only thing we need is rest. Check in with the body and if by the time you’re done with the physical relaxation portion, you may feel the need to drift off. You don’t realize how much energy you put into holding tension. If you do drift off just let yourself go. Your body is telling you it needs to relax. The best thing we can do for the soul or the body is to listen to it.
So tonight, I feel the need to share this message, to unwind the tension in my body, and to sleep. In spite of the million and one things that still need to be done in preparation of the holiday, I know I need to relax. I need to honor the messages I am receiving and let go. Everything will get done.